"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Facebook Drama - Advice Needed

tryst type

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Ok so last week I friend requested a girl who I thought I knew or had met especially because we had mutual friends. Her page was super duper private btw.

Today I get a friend request from some dude who I have many mutual friends with, I add him thinking I must know him, come to find out he was the girl's bf. Within minutes he starts a chat via fb chat saying "why'd your friend add my gf after she denied your friend request? I know all about you. Stalk someone elses sh*t" and unfriends me before I could even say anything! The "I know all about you" line I'm pretty sure means he's heard I'm notorious for picking up girls through Facebook haha

Apparently what had happened was one of my fb guy friends coincidentally friend requested her and she plus her bf thought I was trying to stalk! Insane, I couldn't believe it. So now I'm sure he's out spreading rumors that I'm an online stalker and basically creating slander.

Any advice on this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Because most people around here think I'm a weirdo for picking up girls on Facebook (which is fun and easy!) but the ones who don't agree with it have already started talking and I've heard from numerous people I'm well known for it. Last thing I need is to be considered a stalker when I'm not at all but I'm sure layered with the other rumor wouldn't be a good thing
 

Huffman

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So if one dude writes "you're a stalker" on your wall, then your whole game is dead?
 

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How do these accusations affect your life? Some people won't talk to you because you're a perceived weirdo?

You can't really do much to stop those people from thinking you're weird. Just worry about yourself, a don juan doesn't have time to deal with bulls****. And I doubt these guys social circles are so far reaching that EVERY woman you ever talk to will be like "OMFG FACEBOOK STALKER GET AWAY" . You only waste your time/energy worrying about it. It's not like this guy is gonna do anything anyways, he's all talk guaranteed. When you make enemies, you're doing something right to get them jealous of you enough to dislike you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Simply ignore it. Worry about your character, the person you truly are. Don't worry about your reputation or what others think about you too much. There will always be someone who isn't all positive about you.:)
 

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What if I happen to run into him IRL and he decides to confront me?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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tryst type said:
What if I happen to run into him IRL and he decides to confront me?
Since you're stalking him you should able to know where he is going so you can avoid those places,otherwise read the martial arts thread.

Seriously most of the people is good only at barking,don't worry because if someone wants to hurt you he just do that.
He does not tell you in advance on facebook or tell you why he is angry at you,he simply does it.
 

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Yeah you're right. I am known for meeting girls off fb and honestly who cares, it's just another venue. Guess some people have a hard time seeing it that way.
 
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