"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Facebook Drama - Advice Needed

tryst type

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Ok so last week I friend requested a girl who I thought I knew or had met especially because we had mutual friends. Her page was super duper private btw.

Today I get a friend request from some dude who I have many mutual friends with, I add him thinking I must know him, come to find out he was the girl's bf. Within minutes he starts a chat via fb chat saying "why'd your friend add my gf after she denied your friend request? I know all about you. Stalk someone elses sh*t" and unfriends me before I could even say anything! The "I know all about you" line I'm pretty sure means he's heard I'm notorious for picking up girls through Facebook haha

Apparently what had happened was one of my fb guy friends coincidentally friend requested her and she plus her bf thought I was trying to stalk! Insane, I couldn't believe it. So now I'm sure he's out spreading rumors that I'm an online stalker and basically creating slander.

Any advice on this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Because most people around here think I'm a weirdo for picking up girls on Facebook (which is fun and easy!) but the ones who don't agree with it have already started talking and I've heard from numerous people I'm well known for it. Last thing I need is to be considered a stalker when I'm not at all but I'm sure layered with the other rumor wouldn't be a good thing
 

Huffman

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So if one dude writes "you're a stalker" on your wall, then your whole game is dead?
 

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How do these accusations affect your life? Some people won't talk to you because you're a perceived weirdo?

You can't really do much to stop those people from thinking you're weird. Just worry about yourself, a don juan doesn't have time to deal with bulls****. And I doubt these guys social circles are so far reaching that EVERY woman you ever talk to will be like "OMFG FACEBOOK STALKER GET AWAY" . You only waste your time/energy worrying about it. It's not like this guy is gonna do anything anyways, he's all talk guaranteed. When you make enemies, you're doing something right to get them jealous of you enough to dislike you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Masculinity

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Simply ignore it. Worry about your character, the person you truly are. Don't worry about your reputation or what others think about you too much. There will always be someone who isn't all positive about you.:)
 

tryst type

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What if I happen to run into him IRL and he decides to confront me?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tryst type said:
What if I happen to run into him IRL and he decides to confront me?
Since you're stalking him you should able to know where he is going so you can avoid those places,otherwise read the martial arts thread.

Seriously most of the people is good only at barking,don't worry because if someone wants to hurt you he just do that.
He does not tell you in advance on facebook or tell you why he is angry at you,he simply does it.
 

tryst type

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Yeah you're right. I am known for meeting girls off fb and honestly who cares, it's just another venue. Guess some people have a hard time seeing it that way.
 
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