"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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facebook date went wrong.. what happened/why?

Smartone84

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if u were sending her "romantic style" messages before you even met for the first time, then you are lost and need to go back to the basics of learning the game. As far as her freaking out for you touching her too much, I dont blame her one bit. You need to read the signs before you kino escalate, and Im just guessing u didnt get any with this particular girl
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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pete101

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Bible_Belt said:
Or you could try removing "I'm sorry" from your vocabulary. Just stop apologizing. Unless you do something really bad like run over her dog, apologizing never gets you anywhere. It is nice guy behavior that repels women. Admit your mistakes when you make them, but try to never say "I'm sorry" or "I apologize."

Ignore her until after her trip. Then send her a very brief message in a couple of weeks that has nothing to do with dating, or your last date. Keep it light and fun. If you can't have fun exchanging emails, then you are not going to be fun in person.

The point of the date is to have a good time. I'd rather have fun than have to bully some reluctant chick into kissing me, which to me is no fun at all. There's a quote from The Book of Pook about first dates - "fun shall be the mission!" You were on a mission to make out, and it was no fun for either of you.
in order for me to ignore her.. she'd have to contact me somehow 1st right?

if im not in contact at all that doesn't equal ignoring.. just i got the message that she isn't interested anymore after what i did.

do u not think doing what i did requires an apology.. it's like she couldn't figure out why i kept tryna touch her like i was some groping perv.. when really i was trying to kiss her and building it up.. she doesn't know/understand this, i haven't told her yet.. but she just thinks i wanted to grope her and that isn't my intention.. i was just nervous and hesitant at the critical moment.

is it even possible to prevent her thinking that i'm some groping perv? i wanna hit on her friends so i dont need this hanging over my head.. i thought an apology and misunderstanding might be in order.

even if i leave it a few weeks the 1st thing in her mind she'll remember about me is that i kept tryna touch her.. u can't remove/forget something like that..
 

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read the dj bible as many articles as u can... u don't apologize for trying to hit on them its in man's nature to do those things. do u apologize for taking a sH*t? don't apologize for something that's natural. on the other hand if u are opening the door for her and ur hand slips and the door slams in her face... i think u should apologize for something like that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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