"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Facebook Birthday
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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That's terrible. Really. Amazing to me how some guys think being c & f means degrading a person.vato said:What are some funny birthday wishes you can write on girls walls to stand out from the crowd?
here is one I used on a girl
"It is said that a woman ages like wine, the older the better
But you age like milk, Happy Birthday!"
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Besides, if you have to think this hard about what to say, you probably shouldn't say it.cordoncordon said:
Because it won't sound natural.
...much like the OP's example.
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I'm just busting your balls, but really, I can't recall the last time I actually put THOUGHT into something like this. You see a girl you like....it's her birthday....say "Happy birthday. Drinks?"
Attempting to "stand out from the crowd" via Facebook already reeks of desperation.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I didn't think this was was that special, but it got like 12 "likes" from her friends. Eleven of which I have never met. I just said "I heard birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live. So.... congratulations on that..."
Apparently that was a big hit? I don't know... just normal sh!t I usually say...