"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So there is this woman with me on facebook , we just met one time in real life and it was throw friends. I added her but my mistake I didnt start talking to her at that time . now I want to talk with her but there is nothing in common to say and it will be very clear I am interested in her and will look awkward.
How to start with her casual talk to reduce the awkwardness ? I am out of words because I am kind of careful to not loose her as she seem gf candidate
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So there is this woman with me on facebook , we just met one time in real life and it was throw friends. I added her but my mistake I didnt start talking to her at that time . now I want to talk with her but there is nothing in common to say and it will be very clear I am interested in her and will look awkward.
How to start with her casual talk to reduce the awkwardness ? I am out of words because I am kind of careful to not loose her as she seem gf candidate
Why are you interested in casual talk. Say hi wound you be interested in getting a cup of coffee at the local coffee shop at noon on Saturday. If she says yes she's interested if she says no then she is not. If she says she's busy and offers no counter consuder this a no. Simple as that.

As a side in the future don't friend women you are interested to Facebook.
 

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"I am kind of careful to not loose her as she seem gf candidate" =>here is your problem . Not loose is your problem. Think about it guy. Girlfriend is just friend, no more and you can leave or stay with friend, girl friend is the same. Relax and have fun with her will help you reduce the awkwardness.
 

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What makes you think she IS girlfriend material? You don't KNOW her enough to talk to her, but she's GF material? She may have all kinds of issues you don't know about.

Just say looks like you were having fun on one of her pictures, see how fast and how much she talks to you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I started talking with her, in the first message it was good but gradually she is shortening her responses. I was looking to have a little more active chat before ask her out , but the conversation is dying and I dont see how to fire it again . any way if it is going to die I ll ask her out , best of nothing .
 

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Your wasting time and acting totally beta...just say F' it: I'm going for it and drop the coffee bomb on her.....its a simple yes or no question and if she says no, your done. Quit acting like a chump.
 

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Your wasting time and acting totally beta...just say F' it: I'm going for it and drop the coffee bomb on her.....its a simple yes or no question and if she says no, your done. Quit acting like a chump.
Not true , that only work if the girl already have interest in you , but if you didnt build interest with her first she will simply say no.
 

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well, you have your answer.... she's talking to you LESS.... any thoughts on this chick are mental masturbation
 

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I ask a girl out like this " You are incredibly sexy and would love to spend a wild day enjoying with you . Eating food and getting up to trouble anytime soon. If you think you can handle it ...... i will pick u up at 1pm this saturday "

And this thing works for me everytime.
You should ask her out like this and im sure she will go out with you.
She has shortened her length of texts ? Then why dont u shorten the length of your texts to the half of her length of text ? Let her do the more the efforts and keep the ratio to 70:30 .
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Actually I asked her out after the conversation reached the dead end as I had nothing to loose , and she loved that and we are gonna see each others soon, even though she is careful to not go forward and keep herself on borders.
 
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