"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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evan12

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So there is this woman with me on facebook , we just met one time in real life and it was throw friends. I added her but my mistake I didnt start talking to her at that time . now I want to talk with her but there is nothing in common to say and it will be very clear I am interested in her and will look awkward.
How to start with her casual talk to reduce the awkwardness ? I am out of words because I am kind of careful to not loose her as she seem gf candidate
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So there is this woman with me on facebook , we just met one time in real life and it was throw friends. I added her but my mistake I didnt start talking to her at that time . now I want to talk with her but there is nothing in common to say and it will be very clear I am interested in her and will look awkward.
How to start with her casual talk to reduce the awkwardness ? I am out of words because I am kind of careful to not loose her as she seem gf candidate
Why are you interested in casual talk. Say hi wound you be interested in getting a cup of coffee at the local coffee shop at noon on Saturday. If she says yes she's interested if she says no then she is not. If she says she's busy and offers no counter consuder this a no. Simple as that.

As a side in the future don't friend women you are interested to Facebook.
 

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"I am kind of careful to not loose her as she seem gf candidate" =>here is your problem . Not loose is your problem. Think about it guy. Girlfriend is just friend, no more and you can leave or stay with friend, girl friend is the same. Relax and have fun with her will help you reduce the awkwardness.
 

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What makes you think she IS girlfriend material? You don't KNOW her enough to talk to her, but she's GF material? She may have all kinds of issues you don't know about.

Just say looks like you were having fun on one of her pictures, see how fast and how much she talks to you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I started talking with her, in the first message it was good but gradually she is shortening her responses. I was looking to have a little more active chat before ask her out , but the conversation is dying and I dont see how to fire it again . any way if it is going to die I ll ask her out , best of nothing .
 

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Your wasting time and acting totally beta...just say F' it: I'm going for it and drop the coffee bomb on her.....its a simple yes or no question and if she says no, your done. Quit acting like a chump.
 

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Your wasting time and acting totally beta...just say F' it: I'm going for it and drop the coffee bomb on her.....its a simple yes or no question and if she says no, your done. Quit acting like a chump.
Not true , that only work if the girl already have interest in you , but if you didnt build interest with her first she will simply say no.
 

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well, you have your answer.... she's talking to you LESS.... any thoughts on this chick are mental masturbation
 

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I ask a girl out like this " You are incredibly sexy and would love to spend a wild day enjoying with you . Eating food and getting up to trouble anytime soon. If you think you can handle it ...... i will pick u up at 1pm this saturday "

And this thing works for me everytime.
You should ask her out like this and im sure she will go out with you.
She has shortened her length of texts ? Then why dont u shorten the length of your texts to the half of her length of text ? Let her do the more the efforts and keep the ratio to 70:30 .
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Actually I asked her out after the conversation reached the dead end as I had nothing to loose , and she loved that and we are gonna see each others soon, even though she is careful to not go forward and keep herself on borders.
 
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