"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
F closed my ex
- Thread starter Hyper2010
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
Hyper2010 said:
Best advice?
GO STRAIGHT BACK TO NC... it is for your own best, no matter what, there was a reason why you left her first time.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
That would be a dream scenario, unfortunately, 9 out of 10 fail to keep thoose feelings down, why the NC is the only thing to go with.Vidrio said:
Trust me, i speak through experience. To op, you will be better of finding a new girl, all of your old problems will come creeping back within the first month.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DragonBlood
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NC is more for you than it is getting the girl to come back.
Eternal_water
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Eh? he had sex with her, the only thing he lost was sperm.betheman said:
he had some sex and can go NC again.
Quite a few threads recently along the line of "im getting too much action and interest from girls and I don't like it" like seriously what?
Send her my way for the sex next time if you don't want it, I won't complai about getting some
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Standards gentlemen. Standards. Raise yours and these feelings of disgrace will be forgotten soon enough.
BeDJ
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The reason you feel crappy was because you did something you weren't supposed to do. You lost self-control.
Now, your ex figures that she is your main source of intimacy and will continue to use sex to keep you around. She'll also be sampling popsicles while doing so and sooner or later, she will drop you. This will leave you emotionally and mentally crippled.
Walk away now and generate options.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Still it was my birthday today and made a nice present whilst Im spinning other plates....
She even confessed that since I went NC she had nearly rung me a few times.
BeDJ
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Okay.Hyper2010 said:
It's a lose-lose scenario.
You will not recover until you get her out of your life for a good few months. It's been nearly 2 months for me and it is getting better. Sleeping with other girls will help in the meantime.