"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
F closed my ex
- Thread starter Hyper2010
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
Hyper2010 said:
Best advice?
GO STRAIGHT BACK TO NC... it is for your own best, no matter what, there was a reason why you left her first time.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
That would be a dream scenario, unfortunately, 9 out of 10 fail to keep thoose feelings down, why the NC is the only thing to go with.Vidrio said:
Trust me, i speak through experience. To op, you will be better of finding a new girl, all of your old problems will come creeping back within the first month.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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NC is more for you than it is getting the girl to come back.
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Eh? he had sex with her, the only thing he lost was sperm.betheman said:
he had some sex and can go NC again.
Quite a few threads recently along the line of "im getting too much action and interest from girls and I don't like it" like seriously what?
Send her my way for the sex next time if you don't want it, I won't complai about getting some
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Standards gentlemen. Standards. Raise yours and these feelings of disgrace will be forgotten soon enough.
BeDJ
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The reason you feel crappy was because you did something you weren't supposed to do. You lost self-control.
Now, your ex figures that she is your main source of intimacy and will continue to use sex to keep you around. She'll also be sampling popsicles while doing so and sooner or later, she will drop you. This will leave you emotionally and mentally crippled.
Walk away now and generate options.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Still it was my birthday today and made a nice present whilst Im spinning other plates....
She even confessed that since I went NC she had nearly rung me a few times.
BeDJ
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Okay.Hyper2010 said:
It's a lose-lose scenario.
You will not recover until you get her out of your life for a good few months. It's been nearly 2 months for me and it is getting better. Sleeping with other girls will help in the meantime.