F*ckin seriously????

[Korrupt]

Was already having a bad day. Got scammed for $60 bucks from an online fraudster scumbag. Went on a date with a girl I had been talking to and flirting with pretty heavily through text. Everything was great in person--lot's of laughs, good eye contact, her pupils dilated, great time overall. I said we should get out of there and go back to my place to hangout more and she agreed (also said she might be up for my place afterwards via text before the date). Gave her my address, paid the bill, everything good. Get in my car and head back home, five minutes laters get a text saying: "Hey I'm just gonna go home. I just don't think it's a good idea for me to go back to ur house tonight."

WHAT.

Told her if she aint interested all good, no hard feelings. She says: "I just didn't feel comfortable going back to your house. I don't play games. If I wasn't interested I would've just told you."

She literally did a 180 within 5 minutes.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

And people blame me for fvcking porn stars for $300 rather than dealing with this nonsense.

He didn’t pay $300 though.

 

[Korrupt]

And people blame me for fvcking porn stars for $300 rather than dealing with this nonsense.

He also didn't have sex. She also 99.9% chance wasn't as hot as the girl I was with last night.

And he paid more than $0.

And if $300 is a lot of money to you, then you have bigger problems than I do.

Dude, please GTFO of my topic. Mods, can you delete these posts?

 

[marmel75]

You didn't build enough comfort at the end of the day in person. She literally told you what the issue was and yet you somehow don't want to believe her. No dude, she is telling you the truth. She isn't comfortable with you yet.

Work on that next date and you will probably hit it. Relax. You aren't always going to get laid on the first date.

 

[Trump]

She says: "I just didn't feel comfortable going back to your house. I don't play games. If I wasn't interested I would've just told you."

Translation: ‘First I thought it was a good idea, then realized it wasn’t. I DO play games. If I wasn’t interested I would NOT have told you.’

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Translation: ‘First I thought it was a good idea, then realized it wasn’t. I DO play games. If I wasn’t interested I would NOT have told you.’

Maybe she just agreed at the restaurant to keep the peace and avoid confrontation, knowing the whole time that she would back out.

 

[Urbanyst]

Not every woman is a hoe who will jump in bed when she barely knows you.

That's a good thing by the way lol.

 

[user43770]

Not every woman is a hoe who will jump in bed when she barely knows you.

That's a good thing by the way lol.

Not these days.

She's most likely taken loads to the face in quicker time.

I'm with Marmel on the comfort level.

Then again, maybe she's a unicorn. You did good to not get pissed Korrupt. Keep the option open.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

If you're trying to bang on the first date, the % drops to nearly 0 if you let her get in her car and drive herself to your place. Even the most intent girl will have second thoughts and listen to her conscience telling her not to. The anti-slvt defense is strong.

 

[Billtx49]

If you're trying to bang on the first date, the % drops to nearly 0 if you let her get in her car and drive herself to your place. Even the most intent girl will have second thoughts and listen to her conscience telling her not to. The anti-slvt defense is strong.

Yes two cars that early in the dating process is not a good idea. It lets her isolate herself from you at a critical time in the date.

 

[Urbanyst]

Not these days.

Sadly you might be right.

Very depressing.

 

[Igetit!]

You didn't build enough comfort at the end of the day in person. She literally told you what the issue was and yet you somehow don't want to believe her. No dude, she is telling you the truth. She isn't comfortable with you yet.

Exactly. Korrupt....you've been here too long for novice/rookie misunderstandings like this.

You said she did a "180" in 5 minutes.....No she didn't. You seem to think there's a "One size fits all" comfort level.

That term,"Comfort level"....you need to pay REAL CLOSE ATTENTION to the word "level". Women have different levels of comfort.

Let's say I talk and flirt with a chick. Then she says yes when I ask her out. Ok.....I created enough comfort in her to go out on a date with me,but that doesn't mean she's ready for sex. Just cause she says yes when I ask her out doesn't mean she's ready to hop in bed with me right in that instant...she's not at that "level" yet.

There's different levels.....

A chick might feel comfortable giving you a hug,but not a kiss.
She might feel comfortable giving you a kiss,but not sex just yet...
She might feel comfortable having sex with you,but not enough to enter a relationship with you just yet...

The chick liked you,but just because she liked you and enjoyed the date (the one AND ONLY date you've ever had with her) doesn't mean the flood gates are open and now she's open to any and EVERY thing. You MISUNDERSTOOD.

She said she didn't feel comfortable going back to your house. That's two things women have to worry about....

1: HER SAFETY.....cause she's going to be ALONE and VULNERABLE in an environment she's not familiar with...and
2: HOW YOU VIEW HER: She doesn't want to seem "easy" or like a "hoe".

You seemed to think it was all or nothing,like if she didn't come back to your house with you,it meant she wasn't interested. That's not true. You said you made her comfortable enough to go out THROUGH TEXTING. That's good,but to get her alone back to your place,you'll need more FACE TO FACE interactions like the date you went on.

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

She just wanted the free food.

 

[Milano]

She just wanted someone who would listen.