I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
love that momoent when you notice your gainzzzzswitch said:today i looked at my delts and damn! i can see the three heads completely separated and defined. i was like holy sh!t why didnt i notice it before...
must be the antidepressants or because i dont have a mirror at home....
anyway my posterior delt is lagging so gotta fix that.
hmm what about a press? i simply hate dumbells so i was thinking of a behind the neck press or a similar variation to hit the rear delt...Purefilth said:love that momoent when you notice your gainzzzz![]()
my medial delt is lagging, but I cant do lateral raises for it - bone catches on the inside. I just do the things I CAN do, that engage it a little.
Rear delts - I hit a standing row with wide grip, you'll feel them tear up. then do rear delt fly to finish them - get a good ole pump.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I added behind the neck push press to my routine a few months ago and I love them, do it mateswitch said:hmm what about a press? i simply hate dumbells so i was thinking of a behind the neck press or a similar variation to hit the rear delt...
update : i sprained my ankle while shopping...its not that bad ,but ill lay off till tomorrow.. :box:
yup gonna start doing them again.DanZy said:I added behind the neck push press to my routine a few months ago and I love them, do it mate
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
parallel squats. just below parallel. i make sure to hit the safety bar thingies.Purefilth said:20 reps on 140kg?!?! fvck man - thats gotta hurt! - ATG I hope?
depression.depression and more depression. ive been down pretty badly lately since i HATE THIS FVCKJING SH!THOLE.Fuglydude said:Switch, if you`re squatting 140 kg for 20, your DL and 1 RM squat should easily be above 250 kg and 220 kg respectively... Thats`between 550-600 lbs for DLs and 480 lbs plus for squats for us imperial folk. Why set your goals so low? I`m willing to bet you can easily do a 200 kg pull cold without a warm up with those kind of numbers.
My personal best with a 20-rep breathing squat was 105 kg x 20 at a bodyweight of 77 kg , and I had a 200-210 kg DL at the time.
3 plates for 20 is an amazing feat though... I don`t think I`ve ever seen anyone do it and I`ve been around world-class athletes!!!!
Also seems funny that your gym squat record is 110 x 1... I`ve cleaned that before at a bodyweight of 82 kg. Haha maybe you should find a new gym, doesn`t seem like you belong there!
Awesome work man. I'll be proud when I can get 140kg for 1, let alone 20. And you already did 5 sets before AND after.switch said:thanks man.
thursday
squats
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140 kgs X20 (first time doing a 20 rep set) yes thats a weight AND rep PR. <<<<< the gym record was 110kgs for 1 rep.
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You can't help these people, best bet is to ignore them. Once the "interaction" is over, put it out of your mind. Don't let it stew inside you, you'll feel worse.switch said:just finished my 20 rep set and a gymfag told me "are you finished"
so i said "ok, you lift this weight,no... just unrack this for 1 second and you can have the rack"
- " no man , squats will give you a thick waist bro,its bad for your knees...i just wanna curl"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.