"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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F-buddy advice

40quid

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How would you guys approach an F-buddy situation?

Basically, my question is this: in your experience, how do women who are into casual sex handle a conversation about becoming f-buddies? Or is it much easier to sleep with them first and then sort the pieces out later?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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In my experience it just sort of happens. Before you sleep with her forthe first time make it CLEAR you do not want a girlfriend.
 

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i had a **** buddy (now girlfriend..)

i picked her up one night.
took her to movies another night.
saw her at a club another night.
she came to a mates house after that and was talking girlfirend broyfriend, i said nah i can't too busy with life blah blah blah but i really liked her and couldn't fit a girlfriend in. she liked me enough to say that was ok, we'll just sleep together..
but now, i like her, and am going out with her. i'm happy with the way it worked itself out.
 

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Re: Who you callin' '*****'?

naughty post:cool:
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Re: Re: Who you callin' '*****'?

Originally posted by obijuan
What the f*** are you talking sh*t for f*ggot? I don't even listen to R&B you cow-f*cking red-neck h*m*!!!

----BTW is "40 quid" what your mamma charges tricks when she walks the streets of London at night q***r?

Wow . . . sensitive much?

I was referring to a post that was deleted by the mods. It was done by a guy who called himself "Rick James." In fact, if the mods had left the post, you would see that it was a tongue-in-cheek comment. My bad for not hitting the quote button.

Take some valium and RELAX. Share the love, man.
 

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Re: Re: Re: Who you callin' '*****'?

Originally posted by 40quid
Wow . . . sensitive much?

I was referring to a post that was deleted by the mods. It was done by a guy who called himself "Rick James." In fact, if the mods had left the post, you would see that it was a tongue-in-cheek comment. My bad for not hitting the quote button.

Take some valium and RELAX. Share the love, man.
Okay sorry. :eek: The way it looked I regretted even responding to your question.
 

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It has never been required for me to establish a verbal agreement at any time.
For me it has always been that women who partake in these situations behave in a way that did not require me to set any records straight to begin with. I felt no pressures what so ever.

The time for the talk has always come only when someone starts to "feel differently" about the situation. If you have to make yourself clear, there is a probability that something else is going on.
 

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Very, very, true. However, if it's about what you want then you have to make yourself clear.
 

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Originally posted by obijuan
Very, very, true. However, if it's about what you want then you have to make yourself clear.

Perhaps, but I've never had a straight up FB that didn't want the same thing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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