Eye contact =?

[englishman]

Im having a hard time with eye contact, fells confrontational to me...Im thinking it may be different depending on where your from...when I did a comunication course at college, they told us to hold it for 5 econds or something like that..when I went home my mates thought I was staring em down or looking for a fight ..what do ya think? im working with a guy now who is never first to look away...seems like whats his problem? myself I save it for special occasions! any thoughts??????

 

[i am me]

Don't challenge the really tough guys...in fact, you're not really "required" to look into any guys' eyes. It might even look kind of gay if you do it, and I'm assuming you're not (since you're here). Do it with women and SOME guys SOMETIMES...

 

[mad_monkey59]

Holding eye contact shows confidence, it is the most powerful, form of interaction with a person after speaking and touching.

A good tip is to hold eye contact long enough to know what a persons eye colour is, also when it starts to feel uncomfortable, look away to the side, not down, this is sub conciously a submisive gesture.

 

[englishman]

Yep, I suppose it shows confidence....still im not totaly convinced, if you become a bit of a staircase like some people seem to be then it seems to me to show some kind of insecurity, almost like fear is your motivator and youve GOT TO dominate the situation? dunno, ive got to think about this one..but then again I think im thinking more about men and eye contact....women and eye contact..hmmmm....I never really thought about how much I did it...what if i wear some shades? is that ok? lol......sorry guys had a couple a wobbly pops and rambling....thanks for the input...

 

[Engetsu]

I agree with i am me.

I wouldn't advise looking into odd-looking guys' eyes, because a lot of them are psycho and will want a fight just for a bit of eye contact... So be the bigger man, and avoid the pointless brawl.

However, eye contact with women is another story. Hold it, and use it before saying "hi".