When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I tried this to a married chick who has 3 kids from 2 different dudes. She was a 5/10 just to test it out since she always look at me. The short and chubby kind of 26 Year old chick..dannyegg4575 said:do i have something in my eyes?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I can't stress enough how true that is. Mr. Me is usually right listen to this guy.Mr. Me said:The only problem is that you may be asking for problems since they'll still be your co-workers after your fling ends.
NoMoreTapDancing said:Stop Going After Women At Work!!!
NoMoreTapDancing said:Yeah you'll get sued for sexual harassment and they'll all gang up on you if it goes wrong, it's just not worth it. Make money at work, but leave the hitting on girls to outside office hours.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
NoMoreTapDancing said:That's the scary thing. You don't even have to harass them anymore that you can get into trouble. You can hit on her even just once, as long as she claims to feel 'unsafe' or 'uncomfortable' by anything you do you can get into a lawsuit. It's crazy but the laws are more in favour of women these days and we have to be aware of that. My advice would be to become friends with the women at work and then you have a new bunch of people to go clubbing with. Then they will bring their friends, and you can hit on them, based on recommendation from your friends, which will make it way easier to hook up.
NoMoreTapDancing said:Well its up to you guys, I mean, it doesn't have to be in the place of work for you to get into trouble, so even if you get her number and call her and she doesn't like it you can get into trouble, but hey it's not MY problem, im just offering advice, but when your boss comes to and tells you you're fired and he has a lawsuit on HIS hands then...