Eye contact questions

[Nikar]

Hi all,

Is it true that when a girl looks at you first, or establish eye contact with you first, it generally means they're either ready for you to approach them or they're ready to talk with you?

Recent cases in mind: in a social setting like a cooking class, or a dance class where there's lots of chicks, sometimes I would notice some chicks who are trying to make eye contact with me (ie: from the corner of the eye, I notice someone who fixes their eye contact on me).

Now, to ensure that they're really looking at me and not someone else, I would deliberately avoid any eye contact with them and ignore them, and this causes them to look at me even harder.

Then recently, I started to go up and talk to them since I thought if they're the first to make eye contact, it means they're either ready to talk or are ready for me to approach them etc.

And I realize all the time, it's always a positive result (ie: they're really eager to know you or at least, be social with you)!


On the other hand, and this is where I'm puzzled: there's this other type of girls who does the reverse. They completely ignore me / avoid all eye contact with me and makes me feel like I'm invisible. Is it a good idea to talk to these types without establishing eye contact or just leave them alone since they might have potential issues? I'm not sure about the guys here, but I find it kind of hard if the girl avoids all eye contact altogether in the first place and I haven't even done anything to offend them LOL.


And these girls are not exactly HB8 or 9s....more like 7 or so.

Tks!

 

[teebear]

I try to avoid eye contact with women whom I find unattractive, FWIW. I'll notice them looking my way and I will avoid eye contact if possible. Naturally, I try to make eye contact with women whom I'm attracted to.

Perhaps it's the gentlest form of rejection, evolved over thousands of years. Wouldn't surprise me one bit.

 

[MOTU]

I contact can be a powerful way of flirting. Google some articles on the topic and then practice. You'll be amazed at the results.

 

[Rainman4707]

Hi all,

Is it true that when a girl looks at you first, or establish eye contact with you first, it generally means they're either ready for you to approach them or they're ready to talk with you?

Recent cases in mind: in a social setting like a cooking class, or a dance class where there's lots of chicks, sometimes I would notice some chicks who are trying to make eye contact with me (ie: from the corner of the eye, I notice someone who fixes their eye contact on me).

Now, to ensure that they're really looking at me and not someone else, I would deliberately avoid any eye contact with them and ignore them, and this causes them to look at me even harder.

Then recently, I started to go up and talk to them since I thought if they're the first to make eye contact, it means they're either ready to talk or are ready for me to approach them etc.

And I realize all the time, it's always a positive result (ie: they're really eager to know you or at least, be social with you)!


On the other hand, and this is where I'm puzzled: there's this other type of girls who does the reverse. They completely ignore me / avoid all eye contact with me and makes me feel like I'm invisible. Is it a good idea to talk to these types without establishing eye contact or just leave them alone since they might have potential issues? I'm not sure about the guys here, but I find it kind of hard if the girl avoids all eye contact altogether in the first place and I haven't even done anything to offend them LOL.


And these girls are not exactly HB8 or 9s....more like 7 or so.

Tks!

Forget about all this eye contact stuff...if you want to approach a woman, then approach her.

Regarding eye contact :- Use more eye-contact when she is talking & less when you are, but you must use eye-contact more than her to be dominant. Focus on the top of her nose inbetween her eyes. You don't have to use eye contact to much, just more than her

p.s I get the feeling that if one stands in a bar staring at a woman from across the room she might think that guy is a psycho

 

[Huffman]

Eye contact is great, and hot as hell. Just don't be apprehensive about it (as it sounds like).

Do what you would do anyway (approach if you're interested). Seeing her make eye contact is just a bonus, which increases your confidence.

 

[marmel75]

I always hold eye contact and force the woman to break it first(or man for that matter even)...the person who looks away first demonstrates submissiveness to the other person. Its well documented in the animal kingdom and holds true with humans too even if they don't realize it, subconsciously they do.

And yes, you will notice quite a few look down or look away and then quickly look back and smiles doing this...

You are displaying male dominance and that is an attractive trait to most women.

To be clear I am not saying going out of your way to get eye contact and do this, I am referring to when you happen to get eye contact when walking by someone or turn in a direction and get eye contact with someone...otherwise it comes off as stalkerish and creepy if you are going out of your way to do it...

 

[VladPatton]

You can have eyeball sex with a chick all night, but if she refuses your date, it means d!ck. Ask and ye shall get the answer.