So I have read you should always hold eye contact longer than the girl when you are looking at her, what about when it just gets kind of weird and awkward, should I just keep looking or what? What are switching from one eye to another until she lets up.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Eye contact question
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Here are a couple fair guidelines :
When you are talking look her in the eyes, when it's her turn to talk look away then back into her eyes untill it's your turn again.
OR
Hold eye contact untill she looks away then give her a 'breath' from your eye contact untill she locks eyes with you again.
When you are talking look her in the eyes, when it's her turn to talk look away then back into her eyes untill it's your turn again.
OR
Hold eye contact untill she looks away then give her a 'breath' from your eye contact untill she locks eyes with you again.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I have a hard time looking away. I tend to maintain eye contact of EVERYONE I am speaking to. I have to conciously remember to look away occasionally.
One time, this woman stopped by when I was still with my ex, to discuss this extra-curricular program that she was doing with little kids. She was strangely mezmerizing and attractive, so I maintained eye contact. After a couple minutes of this, she could barely function! Later, my ex mentioned the situation in a jealous tone of voice. I know that I wasn't scaring this woman because to this day when we run into each other, we talk like we are old friends.
Since then I have read that one should look away when talking or having job interviews, etc., because it can be intimidating otherwise.
One time, this woman stopped by when I was still with my ex, to discuss this extra-curricular program that she was doing with little kids. She was strangely mezmerizing and attractive, so I maintained eye contact. After a couple minutes of this, she could barely function! Later, my ex mentioned the situation in a jealous tone of voice. I know that I wasn't scaring this woman because to this day when we run into each other, we talk like we are old friends.
Since then I have read that one should look away when talking or having job interviews, etc., because it can be intimidating otherwise.