So I have read you should always hold eye contact longer than the girl when you are looking at her, what about when it just gets kind of weird and awkward, should I just keep looking or what? What are switching from one eye to another until she lets up.
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
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I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
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Here are a couple fair guidelines :
When you are talking look her in the eyes, when it's her turn to talk look away then back into her eyes untill it's your turn again.
OR
Hold eye contact untill she looks away then give her a 'breath' from your eye contact untill she locks eyes with you again.
When you are talking look her in the eyes, when it's her turn to talk look away then back into her eyes untill it's your turn again.
OR
Hold eye contact untill she looks away then give her a 'breath' from your eye contact untill she locks eyes with you again.
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I have a hard time looking away. I tend to maintain eye contact of EVERYONE I am speaking to. I have to conciously remember to look away occasionally.
One time, this woman stopped by when I was still with my ex, to discuss this extra-curricular program that she was doing with little kids. She was strangely mezmerizing and attractive, so I maintained eye contact. After a couple minutes of this, she could barely function! Later, my ex mentioned the situation in a jealous tone of voice. I know that I wasn't scaring this woman because to this day when we run into each other, we talk like we are old friends.
Since then I have read that one should look away when talking or having job interviews, etc., because it can be intimidating otherwise.
One time, this woman stopped by when I was still with my ex, to discuss this extra-curricular program that she was doing with little kids. She was strangely mezmerizing and attractive, so I maintained eye contact. After a couple minutes of this, she could barely function! Later, my ex mentioned the situation in a jealous tone of voice. I know that I wasn't scaring this woman because to this day when we run into each other, we talk like we are old friends.
Since then I have read that one should look away when talking or having job interviews, etc., because it can be intimidating otherwise.