I understand the importance of eye contact when dealing with people. I am not limiting this to women or business. In general, I don't really have trouble with this anymore, at least not what I can tell. My problem is when I'm in a retail exchange as a customer. I've noticed, I've had more trouble looking the cashier in the eye than anything else. This interaction makes me uncomfortable. I can talk to a salesperson with no trouble. It's this point-of-sale moment I seem to have issue with.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Eye contact question (not what you might think)
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