Eye contact question (not what you might think)

"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Apex

Don Juan

Dec 3, 2019

I understand the importance of eye contact when dealing with people. I am not limiting this to women or business. In general, I don't really have trouble with this anymore, at least not what I can tell. My problem is when I'm in a retail exchange as a customer. I've noticed, I've had more trouble looking the cashier in the eye than anything else. This interaction makes me uncomfortable. I can talk to a salesperson with no trouble. It's this point-of-sale moment I seem to have issue with.

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.