I understand the importance of eye contact when dealing with people. I am not limiting this to women or business. In general, I don't really have trouble with this anymore, at least not what I can tell. My problem is when I'm in a retail exchange as a customer. I've noticed, I've had more trouble looking the cashier in the eye than anything else. This interaction makes me uncomfortable. I can talk to a salesperson with no trouble. It's this point-of-sale moment I seem to have issue with.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Eye contact question (not what you might think)
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