"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Eye Contact, is it Creepy?

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I've been reading the boot camp article, which seems great and I'll follow it as much as possible. But for some reason I thought that making eye-contact with girls could make you look kinda creepy, or am I wrong?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If you make it with intent it's fine.

If you stand across the room and stare and her, make eye contact, and do that ALL night w/o approaching, or stare for a few hours then approach, it might be deemed a little creepy.

In passing if you make eye contact smile, say hi. Great way to show confidence.

And when you are talking to ANYONE. Make firm eye contact, it shows power, confidence and respect.

Being someone in the "business world" it kills me when i'm talking to someone one on one and they stare at the wall or their shoes and something thats not me.

Same goes for you, if you are talking to a girl you are approaching and you glance in her eyes then look down quickly, or you are staring at something else, this shows insecurity. A DJ or PUA or..any man for that matter is always confident, and eye contact is a confident trait.
 

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I feel as if my eye contact is too strong at times and it sends the wrong message,at times it feels as if I am 'glarring' or 'mean muggin' when I am not,I can judge by their reactions to my eye contact.
 

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StoneColdFox said:
If you make it with intent it's fine.
What if your intent was to rape her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJVladdy

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If you think your eye contact is creepy, than you are right.
If you think your eye contact is a gift that you give her... you are also right.

Which one will you choose?
 

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do it with a slight smile.. a mischievous smile..
 

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It depends on if youre creepy or not. If your desperate to get laid, anxious about women, etc., it may come off wrong.

In general there are two types of women.

1. Respects strong eye contact and will lose interest if you break it first. These are usually attractive women with strong personalities. Make them look away first or they will walk away first.

2. Scared of eye contact and will avoid you. These are the shy girls. Make eye contact and smile and approach immediately.
 

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Hold eye contact with her and just stand there across the room while rubbing your bellybutton with a straight face. That totally turns on girls.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Street_Fighter

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Jon55 said:
Hold eye contact with her and just stand there across the room while rubbing your bellybutton with a straight face. That totally turns on girls.
for some reason I am invisioning Stewie from Family guy doing that lol :p
 

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I don't mind eye contact, I got a problem with people who stare for more than 3-5 seconds. By no means is it weak, I just don't like being stared at.
 

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Hitman10000 said:
I don't mind eye contact, I got a problem with people who stare for more than 3-5 seconds. By no means is it weak, I just don't like being stared at.
yea, i think theres a difference between eye contact and just gawking.
 

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This girl im working on is weird with eye contact. She is a very outgoing person when we are at the bars with everyone else, but when around me she is very distant with eye contact and almost never can look me in the eyes, only rarely when we are having a really good conversation. Every other girl i basically talk to holds eye contact regularly with me when talking. Eye contact do's and don'ts are different with different types of girls.
 

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Practice picturing fvcking a girl as you two interact. Then make eye contact with her, and disengage your eyes just to look at her lips. She'll get hypnotized by that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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