"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Eye Contact, is it Creepy?

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I've been reading the boot camp article, which seems great and I'll follow it as much as possible. But for some reason I thought that making eye-contact with girls could make you look kinda creepy, or am I wrong?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you make it with intent it's fine.

If you stand across the room and stare and her, make eye contact, and do that ALL night w/o approaching, or stare for a few hours then approach, it might be deemed a little creepy.

In passing if you make eye contact smile, say hi. Great way to show confidence.

And when you are talking to ANYONE. Make firm eye contact, it shows power, confidence and respect.

Being someone in the "business world" it kills me when i'm talking to someone one on one and they stare at the wall or their shoes and something thats not me.

Same goes for you, if you are talking to a girl you are approaching and you glance in her eyes then look down quickly, or you are staring at something else, this shows insecurity. A DJ or PUA or..any man for that matter is always confident, and eye contact is a confident trait.
 

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I feel as if my eye contact is too strong at times and it sends the wrong message,at times it feels as if I am 'glarring' or 'mean muggin' when I am not,I can judge by their reactions to my eye contact.
 

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StoneColdFox said:
If you make it with intent it's fine.
What if your intent was to rape her?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If you think your eye contact is creepy, than you are right.
If you think your eye contact is a gift that you give her... you are also right.

Which one will you choose?
 

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do it with a slight smile.. a mischievous smile..
 

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It depends on if youre creepy or not. If your desperate to get laid, anxious about women, etc., it may come off wrong.

In general there are two types of women.

1. Respects strong eye contact and will lose interest if you break it first. These are usually attractive women with strong personalities. Make them look away first or they will walk away first.

2. Scared of eye contact and will avoid you. These are the shy girls. Make eye contact and smile and approach immediately.
 

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Hold eye contact with her and just stand there across the room while rubbing your bellybutton with a straight face. That totally turns on girls.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jon55 said:
Hold eye contact with her and just stand there across the room while rubbing your bellybutton with a straight face. That totally turns on girls.
for some reason I am invisioning Stewie from Family guy doing that lol :p
 

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I don't mind eye contact, I got a problem with people who stare for more than 3-5 seconds. By no means is it weak, I just don't like being stared at.
 

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Hitman10000 said:
I don't mind eye contact, I got a problem with people who stare for more than 3-5 seconds. By no means is it weak, I just don't like being stared at.
yea, i think theres a difference between eye contact and just gawking.
 

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This girl im working on is weird with eye contact. She is a very outgoing person when we are at the bars with everyone else, but when around me she is very distant with eye contact and almost never can look me in the eyes, only rarely when we are having a really good conversation. Every other girl i basically talk to holds eye contact regularly with me when talking. Eye contact do's and don'ts are different with different types of girls.
 

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Practice picturing fvcking a girl as you two interact. Then make eye contact with her, and disengage your eyes just to look at her lips. She'll get hypnotized by that.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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