eye contact & Happiness

[Nocturnalist]

for the last two days ive been at the mall(looking for jobs and applying)and im also getting some practice in if you know what i mean.i was reading articles about just being happy with in yourself and eye contact(i just want woman to see me or even get woman to look my way)i read an article(The Most Powerful Girl-Gettin' Technique of All Time- by Allen Thompson)and he was talking about feeling happy and having woman see you happy.i took some notes on that of course reading it i was feeling great inside (not much a happy person but i put effort to showing it at the mall)im at the mall(dressed very clean and mature)and im just showing my happiness smiling with my chill attitude.im keep my eyes steady(looking for the some pretty faces)i hit a little bump on my adventure.1. i would make eye contact with a chick who doesn't make eye contact.2.i would make eye contact with a chick and i smile ,but she quickly looks away and im am shunged or she gives me no smile at all(kinda like a he thinks he hot but hes not thing)thing is i accept this trial and error.im on the fate of i have nothing to lose.its nothing to me. i still had a awesome 2 days at the mall learning about eye contact and being happy.becuase when a woman see's you happy theres a chance of her being a attracted to you.(im working on that)

.ok so anyways,even if things seem up type with woman how should i work on the eye contact and making woman notice me a little bit more...im just starting my journey on Don Juan and i feel like i wasted a enough staying at home and not getting out to build this New and approved me

 

[slaog]

Eye contact is part of your overall body language. Have positive body language and it sends out a positive signal. Watch famous men move and act. Theres also books about about language.


Women will usually look away unless they are very confident themselves. They might look back again after a while. Most guys havn't the confidence to make eye contact with girls and hold it so they're not used to it.


They might have looked away but they would see you as being confident. Thats the main thing.

 

[zekko]

even if things seem up type with woman how should i work on the eye contact and making woman notice me a little bit more...im just starting my journey on Don Juan

If you're just starting out what you're doing is a great way to get into the spirit of things and build confidence. Some guys have trouble looking women in the eye. Eye contact and happiness as a recipe to attract, makes sense to me.

When I started out I was making eye contact like mad with every attractive woman I saw, including the ones I saw in my everday life. Now I notice that unless I'm talking to them directly, I've laid off the eye contact. If I pass them now, I basically pretend not to notice them. I suppose I'm trying the indifference vibe a bit, but I wonder if I'm making a mistake. Making eye contact more seemed to lead to more interactions. But being indifferent might make them wonder about me more. Which would you suggest?

 

[Nocturnalist]

If you're just starting out what you're doing is a great way to get into the spirit of things and build confidence. Some guys have trouble looking women in the eye. Eye contact and happiness as a recipe to attract, makes sense to me.

When I started out I was making eye contact like mad with every attractive woman I saw, including the ones I saw in my everday life. Now I notice that unless I'm talking to them directly, I've laid off the eye contact. If I pass them now, I basically pretend not to notice them. I suppose I'm trying the indifference vibe a bit, but I wonder if I'm making a mistake. Making eye contact more seemed to lead to more interactions. But being indifferent might make them wonder about me more. Which would you suggest?

thanks for the feedback btw.sticking to eye contact would be the best choice,but at times i feel that woman are really uptight these days so its hard.us as men have to work a little bit harder now.if you pretend not to notice them,how are you going to get them to interact with you?i understand that you want to be indifferent but say if a way made eye contact with you and was attracted to you and you didnt notice,you missed out.your kinda passing up the opportunity.

big ups to you guys.i never really had a confidence problem at all.im gradually a chill,laid back person.but i feel i need a stronger foundation.i still have the problems with approaching and talking to woman.i will plan to work on my Body language more(C'mon im not hard to miss.im 6'4 drk brown skin how can woman not notice me?)heh

 

[beatoven]

Protip: Don't look directly at every woman that passes by you. It's creepy and lets them know you're checking them out.

Instead, use your peripheral vision. If you see a woman checking you out from the corner of your eye, look her way and smile. Chances are if she's sizing you up, she's interested.

That way you don't come off as awkward or creepy, and it will seem like you "just happened" to catch her eye.

And if you happen to be scanning the room and a girl blinks when you look her way, that's a pretty good sign she was checking you out earlier.

Also, if she looks to the left or right, don't even bother. She's not interested in you.

My success rate with peripheral vision and reading her eyes is something near 90%. I can almost always tell if she would like my company or not from this.

 

[Plinco]

Also, if she looks to the left or right, don't even bother. She's not interested in you.

Next time I do peripheral vision I'll try that, thanks.

 

[Diaforetikos]

How you carry yourself can make or break you. Walk up straight. Head held just a little high. A slight tilt upwards. I try to have a small smile on my face. It shows that your happy, but not creepy happy. I try not to walk around with my hands in my pocket, but sometimes, I can't help it.

Eye contact is a must. But like beatoven said, don't make it a big deal. I usually glance around and go for the eyes. If I get a stare back or I notice they look more than once, or they give me a smile, it's usually a sign of interest.

You said that women are uptight, which I don't believe. They may have their guard up, but it's just to keep the creeps away. That's where you have to stand out. Just use the tips listed here and you should be fine.

Good luck Noc.

 

[zekko]

Protip: Don't look directly at every woman that passes by you. It's creepy and lets them know you're checking them out.

I disagree with this. If you make eye contact, smile, or say hello while you are passing a woman on the street that is just being normal, open, and friendly. I don't see anything creepy about it. Now if you are sitting in a room and stare at somebody that's different.

Carlos Xuma says that the alpha man walks confidently, head held high, and makes eye contact with every woman he encounters. I don't buy everything he says by any stretch, but I think that's a valid philosophy to pursue if that's what you want to do. It's part of being social, friendly, and gregarious.

if you pretend not to notice them,how are you going to get them to interact with you?i understand that you want to be indifferent but say if a way made eye contact with you and was attracted to you and you didnt notice,you missed out.your kinda passing up the opportunity.

First off, I was talking about girls I already know, girls I work with or whatnot that I talk with fairly often anyway. Second, I'm not looking for an opportunity anyway as I have a girlfriend. But I still like to present myself in a good light and be the best man I can be.

 

[Nocturnalist]

i carry myself pretty,well i just have to work on the Peripheral thing,sometimes i second guess myself with eye contact becuase i dont have a high standards for women(which is kinda bad i guess)so i tend to be attracted to all types of girls.so i feel like im treating in situation the same way....