"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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eye contact and the gym

samueladams

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quick opinion needed about pickups at the gym.

go to the gym...HB8 goes to the gym same times as I do. We're probably in there 4 or 5 days a week at the same time. She's always on the treadmill jogging and on her damn cellphone half the time but not really talking much. Anyways she was/is in a sorority, I'm guessing she's a senior or just graduated and have seen her in a sorority sweatshirt once. I did the frat thing so I know how these broads can be connected to the phone and kindy *****y about pickups they don't approve of. I'm in the med school at her current/former school so I should be ok in her eyes given that these girls are all very socially aware and the MD thing is usually gold in their eyes.


Anyways...every time I come in she checks me out..we get some good eye contact going but I don't do any smiling at the gym. Its golds gym for christs sake. Every time I go to get some water in front of her she stares again but no smiles either way. This crap has been going on for a while now and I need to make a move but short of leaving when she does I'm low on ideas.

Am I reading too much in the fact that 75% of the time I get in her line of sight she's checking me out? I have 0 familiarity with the gym pickup and the signs they send out at the gym if any. Oh and she actually runs there and isn't one of those walk for 30 min. on the treadmill broads.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Point out some little form issue that she should be doing. "Oh, when you do lat pull downs, you really should arch your back and pull into your chest" and go from there. I think that opener is decent enough, it sort of sets you up as sort of a dominant expert type of guy... just don't **** it up or she'll think of you as a personal trainer or a coach or something.

There's other good gym openers but I'm too lazy right now to type them all.
 

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Kwello said:
Point out some little form issue that she should be doing. "Oh, when you do lat pull downs, you really should arch your back and pull into your chest" and go from there. I think that opener is decent enough, it sort of sets you up as sort of a dominant expert type of guy... just don't **** it up or she'll think of you as a personal trainer or a coach or something.

There's other good gym openers but I'm too lazy right now to type them all.
Every Gym around the world has guys saying the same sh*t, just say "Hi" and see how she reacts.
Please do NOT give advice unless asked for.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kwello said:
Point out some little form issue that she should be doing. "Oh, when you do lat pull downs, you really should arch your back and pull into your chest" and go from there. I think that opener is decent enough, it sort of sets you up as sort of a dominant expert type of guy... just don't **** it up or she'll think of you as a personal trainer or a coach or something.
Gym know-it-alls are the lowest of the low :D - People generally don't want uninvited "advice" like that. It's annoying.

I have been wondering about gym approaches myself though - Thus far I've used "Are you using that?" (as in a piece of equipment), but actually only when I've genuinely wanted to use something :D
 

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well, I;m kind of a workout n00b so I don't actually know what most of the machines do. The other day, shortly before I left, I went up to a fairly hot girl at my school gym who was using one machine that I had been working with earlier. I said, "Hey, I use this machine, too. Do you know what it does?" She was pretty receptive to me. (But when I asked her what sport she played, she mentioned the fact that she was still in high school so I kinda bailed at that point.) And she said she didn't know what the machine did either, lol...
 

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Yeah I see your points. I really don't cold approach at the gym and probably shouldn't have even opened my mouth on something I don't know much of.
 
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