"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Eye contact and a nasty habbit.

Themanthatcan

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I have no problem looking into a girls eyes during conversation.No problem at all. The problem is every time I do, I start nodding my head at everything she says. I've noticed it during conversation. I've also noticed when I look a girl in her eyes, I have a hard time paying attention to what she is saying. Kinda feels like I'm getting caught in the "sharing a moment" thing and don't pay enough attention to what she says. Is this a big deal, or something I should just brush off?

Post some advice.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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THE_ADDMAN

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doesnt sound like too big of a problem. just work on paying more attention to her.
 

nonchalant

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Stare at her tits instead.
 

ryannath

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I have this problem too, but it's not just with girls. Whenever I look in a persons eyes, I totally am not listening to what they are saying because I am so concentrated on looking in their eyes. If I don't keep eye contact, I can follow along fine. Very weird.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You can draw a pair of eyes on your eye lids, like Jack Sparrow in Pirates of the Carribean. That way you are not starring at her yet she thinks you are.
 

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Try looking at foreheads while talking to strangers, it works even when police interrogate you, they'll think you looking at their eyes (anti-lie-detector). Then look into eyes once in a while till you comfortable with it...
 
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