"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Extreme Makeover (The Blueprint)

Casino

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Greetings fellow DJ members.

Found PUA/DJ community in June. Learned I had some AFC tendencies and have began to dismantle them piece by piece. I've always been good with girls but was missing opportunities to capitalize with them all the time.

Not only that but everyone seems to be doubting me lately. You name it, friends, family, everyone I know considers me an underachiever and a loser. Even though I have honorably served my country lead a drug free life, and live on my own supporting myself.

I was approached and asked out by girls all the way up until 9th grade. Where then I hit a deep depression that I've been struggling with for the last 8 years. Namely because of parental abandonment issues which I believe has made me a commitment phobe. Not just girls it seems I can't commit to anything.

Moving Forward..........

I've taken to doing alot of reading lately and I will say I've been highly inspired by Napoleon Hills' work. Specifically I've been re-energized by "Think and Grow Rich"

This thread will document my transformation from perceived underachiever to the ultimate DJ.

Heres the deal folks. This just isn't about shagging chicks. This is a complete and utter transformation. Which will im

Phase 1. (Financial Phase)

Step 1. Procure a better paying job as a car salesman.

Right now the Job I have is wack. I don't even want to get into it because I will get nauseated by merely describing it. I've done some checking and with my skills and desire to be a DJ sales seems like the logical choice. I figure I can make some decent coin and work on social mastery at the same time.

Step 2. Save as much money as I possibly can.

Basically this means living bare bones. Cutting off internet access, cable, excess food expenses, and any other expense that is not a basic necessity.

Phase 2 (Physical Phase)

Step 1. 10 percent BF% by 1 July 2005. Point blank. I will follow the cut program that is documented @ abcbodybuilding.com
Right now I stand 5'10 weigh 200 LB's and my BF % is in the low 20's. I have a naturally athletic body but it is obscured under this ugly fat. On top of the 10% I will also aim to have well defined AB's, Pec's, and Bi's.

Step 2. I'm currently in the Army Reserves and am administered PT tests (physical training) at my leisure. The test consists of pushups, setups, and a 2 mile run. 300 points is the max you can score. I will also undertake the task of mixing this test by 1 July 2005.

Phase 3 (Don Juan Phase)

Step 1. I will hone my DJ skills at least every day. I will also make it a point to go out at least one night week to solely do approaches, random convos, and street sarges. I will not stop this pursuit until I have a rotation of 3-4 girls that I can shag on any given time. I will make it a point to make sure this doesn't interfere with my first two phases because they are of the most importance.

Step 2. I will use the DYD approach because IMHO I am an naturally funny and ****y guy when I'm not depressed. Which is about half the time.

So this brings me to my final stage of the transformation:

The Goal.

My goal has always been to be a helicopter pilot. Right now my financial situation won't allow me to pursue that. Plus my credit is good but I doubt I would be loaned 40,000 dollars that it takes to pay for pilot school.

To top that off my current location offers no adequate pilot training for Helicopters.

So in order to attain this lofty goal I will have to do the following::

1. Get finances/credit in order.
2. Further research schools and flight training material.
3. Move to a new location that offers a good flight school.


This project is for my own benefit. Feel free to ignore or reply to my postings in this. I will update this at least 3-4 times a week and do a monthly re-evaluation (inventory) to see where I am and adjust accordingly.

Wish me luck fellas. I'm about to break out of my comfort zone in a major way.

Today the following is to be done.

Cancel Cable/Net
Disconnect PS2
Get my best shirt/slacks/shoes combo and go out to apply for the aforementioned sales positions.

**I will do all my updates from the public libraries PC.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Casino

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2 interviews today.

I think I nailed the Interview at one of the local car dealerships. Used some C&F and it actually went over well. Which goes to show you that you can use DJ techniques in every aspect of life.

Just in case that doesn't go through I've got a backup plan as a cable Installer and I start training on that tomorrow.

Been chatting up almost every girl I see to get more comfortable with openings.

Off to the strip club to practice some neg hits.
 

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Originally posted by baracus
Prediction:
You will fail.

So it is written, so it shall be done.
Woah man, what's with the hate Soup?

As for Casino, I like that you have laid out a clear and distinct plan for your future. Keep your focus on a goal and there's no doubt in my mind you will achieve it. That being said, don't bite off too much at once. I would suggest focusing on your highest priority goal and doing everything necessary to reach it.

Oh yea, don't let a woman come in your life and f*k it up! I've met numerous women (and some have admitted to it) that will intentionally sabotage men in hopes of diverting their undevided attention to them. Just a heads up bro!
 

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Originally posted by Casino


Off to the strip club to practice some neg hits.
all your planning just came undone in the very last line of your 2 posts.

there is no point in practising ****y/funny or neg hits or demonstrating a higher value etc... anywhere other then with chicks you want to date.

you can easily get it right first time, and then u'll get it right on a stripper, or your uncle or whatever, instead of a girl you want.

you don't need to learn this **** anywhere except in the field. strip club is not the field.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Casino

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thanks for the encouragement jiggy.

quest..good point

as for the strip club approach i should have been a little more clear.

when i go it usually shocks me into of higher masculinity and increases my sexual desire which makes me better in the field.

some detailed field reports will be coming wednesday night. I'll be hitting a bowling alley to cruise for some potential tang.
 
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