"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Explain This To Me

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This will be short and sweet.
Since I have been reading into the dj advice I have been having unbelievable success with women. Props to all you guys and thanks for opening my eyes.

One problem I have been having is all of the girls saying that I seem like a player. This is without even kissing them yet. So I don't call them and I don't bug the hell out of them like the AFC. What is the deal? I'm not even getting any *****! Why are these women calling me a player? So what if I am super suave. How can I change this female perception?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Those girls sound like the ones that will stay single until they're 24, then go an have an LTR and get married to some nice guy.

Seriously dude, don't worry about it, pretty soon the word about you will spread and girls will want to hang with you because they'll be curious as to whether you really are the bad guy they make you out to be.

This means you get a lot of attention, and attention from girls = good.
 
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Well how are they saying it? Are they saying it in a semi-joking way or in a disgusted way?


If its the latter, then thats not good. What are you doing to make them think this way? You must be doing something and sending bad vibes to make them think this way.
 
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No, it is in a sort of joking, I can't figure out this guy out yet way. Obviously trying to evoke a certain kind of answer.

eg. I take a girl out to dinner on a first date. Everything is going beautiful. She even comments on how well I know my Italian food followed by a "you seem like a player." WTF? Enlighten me guys.
 
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It is what you make of it.

A simple way to reframe is to simply accuse her of whatever it is that she accuses you of doing/being. Tell her she is the player. Wherever you approached her - tell he she was just there to pick up men. If you met her while she was working, tell her that she only works that job to pick up men. Laugh at the idea of her calling you a player - it's funny because she is such a big player herself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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