"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Explain This To Me

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This will be short and sweet.
Since I have been reading into the dj advice I have been having unbelievable success with women. Props to all you guys and thanks for opening my eyes.

One problem I have been having is all of the girls saying that I seem like a player. This is without even kissing them yet. So I don't call them and I don't bug the hell out of them like the AFC. What is the deal? I'm not even getting any *****! Why are these women calling me a player? So what if I am super suave. How can I change this female perception?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Those girls sound like the ones that will stay single until they're 24, then go an have an LTR and get married to some nice guy.

Seriously dude, don't worry about it, pretty soon the word about you will spread and girls will want to hang with you because they'll be curious as to whether you really are the bad guy they make you out to be.

This means you get a lot of attention, and attention from girls = good.
 
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Well how are they saying it? Are they saying it in a semi-joking way or in a disgusted way?


If its the latter, then thats not good. What are you doing to make them think this way? You must be doing something and sending bad vibes to make them think this way.
 
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No, it is in a sort of joking, I can't figure out this guy out yet way. Obviously trying to evoke a certain kind of answer.

eg. I take a girl out to dinner on a first date. Everything is going beautiful. She even comments on how well I know my Italian food followed by a "you seem like a player." WTF? Enlighten me guys.
 
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It is what you make of it.

A simple way to reframe is to simply accuse her of whatever it is that she accuses you of doing/being. Tell her she is the player. Wherever you approached her - tell he she was just there to pick up men. If you met her while she was working, tell her that she only works that job to pick up men. Laugh at the idea of her calling you a player - it's funny because she is such a big player herself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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