"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ilovemesomeme

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I got myself in a situation I am not used to. My girlfriend broke my heart last week, but I decided I am not going to be in self-pity, and move on. I actually have 2 women interested in me. One is a hot Asian co-worker, and the other is Spanish chick I met on line. It seems like they are interested. To be honest I am not used to juggling 2 women. Here is the situation. I have a band that is playing next Friday. They both know about my band, and if they go to the website they will see we are playing next Friday. The thing that is bad is they both live close to where my band is playing, so there is a chance they both may come to the show.

First of all I don't know who to invite, and what do I do if they both show up. I mean it would probably be best that I don't talk about the band with them, and then invite one of them. I don't know, like I said I am not use to this. Any advice would be welcome.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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oakraiderz2

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If you invite one and they both show youll be more obligated to talk to the one you invited. If they both show up without being invited you can treat the like you would treat any other girl. Talk to other girls in the place as if you know them and you should be fine.
 

Desdinova

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I've been in this situation before.

If they both show up, give both of them equal attention. You'll have a lot of people to talk to, and gear to set up/take down, so don't give either of them a whole lot of time.

It's one hell of a rush when two girls your dating show up at the same location.
 

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You're not juggling two women here because, by the sound of your post, it doesn't appear that you've banged either one of these girls or even took them out on a date yet. Saying your juggling these two women is like saying your trying to keep friends from knowing you have other friends. Don't sweat it, even if they both show.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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##17

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Good way of handling it: Say to both of them "We're playing tomorrow night at Jillian's. You should come watch us." If they both show, treat each as another friend.

PS: I KNOW there are guys in here, or at least somewhere, who would be very good at parlaying these situations into a threesome and who could give a GREAT way of handling a situation like this. I'd be interested in how they would answer.
 
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