Exercising daily: What's your motivation?

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Once you make something a part of your lifestyle motivation is often a non-issue. You feel off balance when you don't get a chance to incorporated it into your regular routine. But that doesn't happen until after you get past the time of seeing it as a chore where you need a good kick in the pants to get started. Usually that's after a noticeable change is recognized.

 

[Potbelly]

I wanna add that I feel the same way you do, except you were much more eloquent

 

[don juan jr]

Couple things motivate me.

1. The way i look in my shirts
2. Watching the hot gym chicks workin out
3. Talkin to people that go there regularly

 

[Duke]

I do it, because it's a way to reinforce my self-worth, just like buying nice clothes reinforces my worth. My line of thinking is, "If I put this much work into myself, then I must be worth it." It's a self-fulfilling prophecy and it really works well.

What gets me to the gym when I'm feeling really lazy or if I have to persist through non-ideal circumstances ,such as a rainstorm or a bad hair day, is an intense rage that fills my heart, burns my eyes, and oozes out of every pore of my body! This focused rage is a result of the emotions I feel when I think of how much sh!t my ex talked to me both during and especially at the conclusion of the relationship. So it's a kind of karmic payback. I am becoming the best I can be to both repair the damage to my self-esteem that was dealt to me during the break-up (feeling as if maybe I'm not attractive as I thought I was... pfft), and also to EXCEED where I used to be and totally self-actualize. So if the EX sees me in the future, she will only be able to gawk at my social and physical mastery and kick herself for making rushed, dumbass decisions.

I am a very spiteful person hah!!!

But really, that stuff's great to get your ass OUT OF THE HOUSE. But ultimately you should be at the center of your world and doing it because YOU want it for yourself.

 

[sinner]

Is there any way to force myself to stick to a plan? Where does your motivation come from?

My motivation comes from the desire the look good/attractive.... Plus, i feel like more manly/dominant when i workout

 

[mrRuckus]

What gets me to the gym when I'm feeling really lazy or if I have to persist through non-ideal circumstances ,such as a rainstorm or a bad hair day, is an intense rage that fills my heart, burns my eyes, and oozes out of every pore of my body! This focused rage is a result of the emotions I feel when I think of how much sh!t my ex talked to me both during and especially at the conclusion of the relationship. So it's a kind of karmic payback.

This is sad.

 

[adpreston1988]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjcZNR6MiRE

This commerical is so inspirational that it gives me all the motivation I possibly need to ride my bike. It makes me want to become one with my bike and go farther each and every time I ride.

 

[CGE333]

My suggestion (may have already been mentioned) is to get a workout partner. I got one a month ago and not only do I go to the gym more often, but I have found that my workouts are more intense and longer. I know how the tired excuse goes, I typically wake up around 4:30 or 5:00 go to work until 4:30 or 5:00 and then fight 1.5 hours of traffic to get home. But this works for me and hopefully will work for you- give it a try.

 

[Duke]

This is sad.

Eh? I am transferring the negative emotions into a constructive activity. I'm going to feel the emotions one way or another. It's much smarter to actually USE them instead of letting them just drain me.

 

[grr]

Health
Wealth
Women

I really like that because its catchy and the order which it is displayed makes a lot of sense.

My motivation comes from lots of things, but what really pumps me up is passing a pretty girl, smiling, making eye contact, turning around and seeing her checking me out.

Lol, that is nice and motivates me sometimes, too.

The foundation for my motivation is knowing the fact I must parent myself because no one else is going to do it. It sounds boring, I know, but that's how I motivate myself.

I like this one because external influences cannot break that type of motivation, whereas the person suggesting they continue because its easier to keep going might give up after being out with an injury for a couple months, etc. And, it applies to other areas of life, too.

I find myself talking to myself sometimes because of this. Probably be pretty funny to watch but sometimes you just need to HEAR the truth even if it comes from your own mouth. "Goddamn!t you lazy a$$, you're MADE to exercise daily, now get going!"

 

[NYtomb]

strong body=strong mind
plus you have to look good at the beach and i want to continue to improve my race times

 

[skeeloo]

motivation was when me and my freind were walking on the streets guys were scared of him when we almost got into a fight over some hoe this skinny dude became a muscle machine in just 6 months and he got all the attention from the girls, even though facially i looked better than him. guys dont fuk with him so i want that respect to. im 6'3 and need to add some muscles he is 5'9 if i add more muscles on my 6'3 body i think id be bigger than him.cuss its would do well for my esteem and health. my days of being a skinny pretty boy is now officially over. though many girls like skinnyboys i dont care.

 

[BluEyes]

1. You feel better

2. You can eat more without feeling guilty

3. People don't disrespect you

4. People subconsciously submit to you(alpha male thing i think)

5. this should be #1 - Having a nice bod gets you past first base with the ladies.

 

[6-heads lewis]

this is a stupid question, there should never be a lack of motivation to imrpove your physical appearance.

regardless of anyone tells you, nothing is treasured more by society than physical attractiveness. the self-centred, stupid, arrogant but good-looking male will ALWAYS live a happier and more fulfilling life than the righteous, intelligent, good-hearted male (trust me, i know all too well).

sadly, the most efficient use of time to improve your overall life is spent in the gym or otherwise improving how you look. an hour at the gym will produce better results than an hour at the library or volunteering at the food bank. so much for 'God' eh?

the better-looking you are, the better your job, wage, respectability, social status, and spouse will be. people will treat you better everywhere you go. ER line-ups will be shorter, court sentences will be lgihter, police will let you off with a warning more frequently.

'all the good jobs go to the people with the best hair'

for fellow logical, philosophical nerds like me, i highly recommend ray gordon's calculated, efficiency-based (not to mention free) means of attracting females over any silly 'game' or routines these clowns (and con-artists) try and sell you.

to sum up: life sucks... but since youre stuck here and probably have a reason not to kill yourself, you may as well make the most of it. and nothing will bring you happiness faster than white teeth, a nice hairdo and big muscles.

 

[djtdot]

Knowing that I if I get back to my pear-shaped body, I would lose all my self-esteem and would be really ashamed of walking on the road, and had to wear lose cloths to look somewhat decent. Now I can wear somewhat tight cloths and look good.

 

[stevey_2000]

the only motivation a person needs to workout and having a good body??

look at the fatties queuing up in mcdonalds/kfc/chip shop that basically look 40 when in there 20's, is that not enough??

it's tragic to see all the hot chicks i knew at school how they are now, with 3 kids and faces like the back end of a bus eyeing me up, they wouldn't give me a quick glance at school but the boot is on the other foot now!!, my mates from school all look 15 years older than me aswell, tut, tut....and i'm only 28 (but look 21)

keeping fit and keeping a very good toned body with my 6-pack is my main focus in life from now until i can keep going (middle 80's if need be)

 

[mrRuckus]

Eh? I am transferring the negative emotions into a constructive activity. I'm going to feel the emotions one way or another. It's much smarter to actually USE them instead of letting them just drain me.

The stuff you said shouldn't be affecting your emotions so much to begin with. Dirt off your shoulders, brother man.

regardless of anyone tells you, nothing is treasured more by society than physical attractiveness. the self-centred, stupid, arrogant but good-looking male will ALWAYS live a happier and more fulfilling life than the righteous, intelligent, good-hearted male (trust me, i know all too well).

ALWAYS huh? Not just "always" but ALWAYS. The one thing i know (yes i realy do know only one thing) is that always is usually never always. I doubt it's anywhere near always. As long as you're not atrociously ugly a shining personality will net you hot babes, a good job and decent treatment from others. Unless what you mean by "good-hearted" is doormat.

Being a pretty boy with nothing else tends to just makes people despise you. They're already jealous of your looks but you have no personality either so why would they want to treat you well?

"an hour at the gym will produce better results than an hour at the library or volunteering at the food bank."

This comparison is askew. An hour at the gym will be more worthwhile than an hour at the library more than likely. But 2-3-4-5 hours at the gym will net you far less than the equivalent time at the library. There isn't a 1:1 ratio here. See: diminishing returns.

the better-looking you are, the better your job, wage, respectability, social status, and spouse will be. people will treat you better everywhere you go. ER line-ups will be shorter, court sentences will be lgihter, police will let you off with a warning more frequently.

Oh boo on that. Some of the uglier people I know are the most revered people in town. But yea, those things do happen... If you're pretty but a bore or an ass your good looks quickly diminish the favortism.

Would you date the 9 who is boring or the intelligent, charismatic 7? Guess which the worthwhile women go out with.



And you know what. If your face is ugly, and you have a nice body from going to the gym, you're still kinda fcuked.

 

[6-heads lewis]

ALWAYS huh? Not just "always" but ALWAYS. The one thing i know (yes i realy do know only one thing) is that always is usually never always. I doubt it's anywhere near always. As long as you're not atrociously ugly a shining personality will net you hot babes, a good job and decent treatment from others. Unless what you mean by "good-hearted" is doormat.

'ALWAYS' is an exaggeration in virtually any context, there are going to be exceptions, but they are few and far between, and not worth using as evidence of a trend. I would not teach anyone to follow the 5% who succeed despite overwhelming odds. Taking the path of most resistance is not bravery, but insanity.

Yes, a shining personality can land you an attractive wife, a good job, and positive overall tratment... but the same male with an improved appearance will likely have a hotter wife, a better job, and better overall treatment, at the low cost of 3hrs/week at the gym and a well-planned diet.

Being a pretty boy with nothing else tends to just makes people despise you. They're already jealous of your looks but you have no personality either so why would they want to treat you well?

Looks and character usually go hand in hand. Despite claims from this site, I have yet to meet a fat, ugly, poor male with high confidence and charisma. This male is likely delusional or an actor, since there is no justification for his attitude. Confidence is the refusal to second-guess yourself, aided by positive past experiences under the same circumstances. If ugly people are continuously rejected sexually, then from where does this confidence stem? Almost all leaders and people-magnets I have encountered were above average in height, physical build, facial appearance.

This comparison is askew. An hour at the gym will be more worthwhile than an hour at the library more than likely. But 2-3-4-5 hours at the gym will net you far less than the equivalent time at the library. There isn't a 1:1 ratio here. See: diminishing returns.

You're right thats a good point, I guess it depends on the person's genetic makeup and the results they obtain from the gym. If each gym session nets you the same physical improvement, then spending that hour at the gym for the rest of your life is the best way to go. But thats unlikely, with plateaus, newbie gains, etc...

Oh boo on that. Some of the uglier people I know are the most revered people in town. But yea, those things do happen... If you're pretty but a bore or an ass your good looks quickly diminish the favortism. Would you date the 9 who is boring or the intelligent, charismatic 7? Guess which the worthwhile women go out with.

Id take the 7, but still do the 9 lol. If the 9 was 75% as intelligent and charismatic as the 7, id take her, other factors equal.

An outgoing male 6 might get temporarily better results than an introverted male 9 but thats fools gold. As soon as the 9 shows interest or makes himself available, the 6 is turfed, or at least cheated on.

And you know what. If your face is ugly, and you have a nice body from going to the gym, you're still kinda fcuked.

lol true...

 

[mrRuckus]

'ALWAYS' is an exaggeration in virtually any context, there are going to be exceptions,

Yes, a shining personality can land you an attractive wife, a good job, and positive overall tratment... but the same male with an improved appearance will likely have a hotter wife, a better job, and better overall treatment, at the low cost of 3hrs/week at the gym and a well-planned diet.

This is completely obvious. Of course if you add good things to something good it'll be better. And none of this matters since you have retracted your "always" claim though I disagree on your numbers. If you didn't mean always or on the border right up to always, why stress it so much with the capitalization? 95% is no where near always. And the people on this site are supposed to be trying to make themselves into those top percentages personality wise as well as.

Looks and character usually go hand in hand.

It does?! What people are you around? The ones i know with good personalities tend to be the average or somewhat below average people because their heads aren't in the clouds and don't expect ass kissing because they happened to be born pretty.

Despite claims from this site, I have yet to meet a fat, ugly, poor male with high confidence and charisma. This male is likely delusional or an actor, since there is no justification for his attitude.

Poor? Was there a mention of poor? I don't think so but i don't remember.

That aside, why is there no justification for his confidence? Since when does confidence stem from looks alone? Confidence is just thinking/knowing "I'm sure I can handle whatever comes along." The good looking guy seems to be the one deluded if he derives his confidence from his good looks alone. Please note that i noted above that i already excluded the outright ugly guy.

I have a pretty skinny, goofy, feminine mannered, not-so-good-looking friend and for the life of me i can't figure out why he has so much confidence. He's fairly smart and successful is all i can come up with for why. I'm smarter, better looking, better with women, bigger, better at sports, and have more friends and yet he has more confidence than i do. This is probably because my personality leans towards being a realist so i expect to fail a lot. This isn't to say i lack confidence; i just realize i'm human and fall on my face a lot and can't delude myself into thinking i'm the sh1t. Not sure of the point of this paragraph

I don't remember claims from this site that say you can be fat and ugly and poor and get hot women. What i recall is that it wants you to improve all these facets to at least have a fighting chance if you weren't blessed with natural prettiness since women aren't nearly as demanding of their mates' looks as guys are. Not to say at all that it doesn't help but just because you're a 6 doesn't mean you can't get an 8. But you have to be realistic since you don't really have a prayer of a 9+ if you're a 5 and can't raise that up somehow unless you are completely blessed in some other way (rich, famous, extremely socially skilled...) or the 9 herself is damaged goods.

 

[mrRuckus]

Originally Posted by 6-heads lewis
Confidence is the refusal to second-guess yourself

That's a good definition.

Sounds more like pig-headedness to me. Second guessing saves a lot of mistakes. It's repeated second guessing that's the problem.

If anything i'd say confidence is knowing when fear is justified and being able to judge correctly what your limits are.