"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Excuses!!!!!

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Bad idea. I have tried this with a few girls in the past.

Let's you are "successful", and she agrees to become a fvck buddy. This is after she has developed feelings for you. Girls get oneitis too, but it's more powerful. They go through the attraction process and think they're in love! What happens after that is that she keeps having sex with you in the hope that it will win you back. That you might 'fall in love' with her.

She's hurting knowing that you may be sleeping with other girls. She might do the same to make you jealous or try to make herself feel better. But she'll just feel like a slut. Meanwhile the resentment towards you is building up.

Possibly, during this time you develop feelings for her. You have spent a fair bit of time together and developed some degree of emotional and physical intimacy so this is only natural. So, when the resentment blows up in your face, it hurts YOU a lot more. She will enjoy hurting you.

It may not work that way, but I've seen variations on this story a few times.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It can get nasty. The worst thing is if you have allowed her to think you two are exclusive. Because then becoming a FB is taking away something she feels she has earned by sleeping with you. Let's assume this girl doesn't like being treated like a slvt.
 

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"Jus_LikeCandy," why are you acting like a guy? Just quite the sharade.
 

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Eternal, I can take that comment as some sort of insult? Have you ever had a relationship woth a woman?

I know there's a general consensus (among immature people) on this site to completely disregard a woman's feelings and completely ignore our own. But it's about finding a balance. To understand the nature and power of attraction, jealousy, EMOTION.

If you don't understand this, then it's no wonder you're not getting laid.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I will have to figure the best way to work through. I know I want to keep this chick around. I don't know why..
 

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Originally posted by Mortukai
That Eternal's a wily one, he is ;) :up:

('cept he can't spell "charade" or "quit" :p )
"That Eternal" is still feeling the effects of yesterdays birthday extravaganza (or however it's spelled!) :yawn:

Hellboy - Did I upset you by pointing out that "School," "Jus_Likecandy,' and "tyj" are the same people?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
this post has lost the plot

i thought we were tryin to help school?
"School" is a recently banned poster for having a few usernames...
 
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