Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Excuses!!!!!

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Bad idea. I have tried this with a few girls in the past.

Let's you are "successful", and she agrees to become a fvck buddy. This is after she has developed feelings for you. Girls get oneitis too, but it's more powerful. They go through the attraction process and think they're in love! What happens after that is that she keeps having sex with you in the hope that it will win you back. That you might 'fall in love' with her.

She's hurting knowing that you may be sleeping with other girls. She might do the same to make you jealous or try to make herself feel better. But she'll just feel like a slut. Meanwhile the resentment towards you is building up.

Possibly, during this time you develop feelings for her. You have spent a fair bit of time together and developed some degree of emotional and physical intimacy so this is only natural. So, when the resentment blows up in your face, it hurts YOU a lot more. She will enjoy hurting you.

It may not work that way, but I've seen variations on this story a few times.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It can get nasty. The worst thing is if you have allowed her to think you two are exclusive. Because then becoming a FB is taking away something she feels she has earned by sleeping with you. Let's assume this girl doesn't like being treated like a slvt.
 

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"Jus_LikeCandy," why are you acting like a guy? Just quite the sharade.
 

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Eternal, I can take that comment as some sort of insult? Have you ever had a relationship woth a woman?

I know there's a general consensus (among immature people) on this site to completely disregard a woman's feelings and completely ignore our own. But it's about finding a balance. To understand the nature and power of attraction, jealousy, EMOTION.

If you don't understand this, then it's no wonder you're not getting laid.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I will have to figure the best way to work through. I know I want to keep this chick around. I don't know why..
 

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Originally posted by Mortukai
That Eternal's a wily one, he is ;) :up:

('cept he can't spell "charade" or "quit" :p )
"That Eternal" is still feeling the effects of yesterdays birthday extravaganza (or however it's spelled!) :yawn:

Hellboy - Did I upset you by pointing out that "School," "Jus_Likecandy,' and "tyj" are the same people?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
this post has lost the plot

i thought we were tryin to help school?
"School" is a recently banned poster for having a few usernames...
 
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