Excommunicated

[R19]

Don't talk to me, don't call me, don't e-mail me, don't text me.

Whether warranted or not, it feels terrible - especially with someone that you have known for a while. Whatever the interest and history, it means nothing now - and it could have been substantial - as in years. A lot of the bad feelings come from knowing that there were many aspects of the relationship that you could have handled much better or done differently. Or perhaps no matter what you could have or would have done, this was the result on the horizon, but you tried to press in vain.

You allowed them to be too controlling in the relationship, and they ran the court. Because they held this dominant position, and can not have their cake and eat it too with champagne, they wait. As soon as they get another hook up and you are not just right in their life, they lash out with a vengeance...

Has anyone ever had this situation turn into any type of future contact? Friend, fvck buddy, scene rival with all sorts of future drama playing out? I am asking because odds are I will be running into a sh1t storm in the near future. I just want to take a high road, be the bigger person, and walk away from the situation without being shredded. Thanks.

 

[R19]

wow - I must be an original.

 

[Joe Stud]

I prefer the aloof & unavailable method. The "dont ever call, write, email, text me" seems too emotional and hints that you are hurt, and striking back OR... that you cant stand the temptation of hearing from them. Seems week. Act disinterested and aloof. Dont answer calls, of emails. Say "hi" and "goodbye" if you run into her. The concept is: You are not "shattered" and "under repair" from this breakup... you are simply too busy gettin p---- from other HB's

 

[BustedKnucks]

when a girl takes a **** on your chest like that, delete her number, wait a few weeks, inevitably you will run into her again. if you dont do anything stupid or annoying in the meanwhile, after this time she will have settled down. possibly, shell have reconsidered and want to actually see you, or she wont, in which case you should just MOVE ON.

 

[R19]

Don't talk to me, don't call me, don't e-mail me, don't text me.

Joe Stud, not sure if you / people were reading this right, but just in case, this is what the woman said...

 

[scrouds]

She wants an emotional response to that. The best thing you can do is an indifferent "ok".

I am a little disappointed that this thread isn't about getting kicked out of church for hitting on too many girls during services.

 

[Joe Stud]

oh sorry r19. my mistake. thanks. INDIFFERENCE is best

 

[sodbuster]

WHEN you see her again, be coodial, but have something to do soon and leave. don't be sad,mad nothing but indiffferent.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I've had the EXACT thing said to me, by my oneitis no less, except she added, "Don't LOOK at me (again)." I just said, "ok" and kept right on walking. And she was Reading what she said from a piece of paper. This was before I started seeking out pickup help to understand women, so was I alpha Before learning about pickup? idk.

She tracked me down a month or so later and I said that "I forgot what you looked like" to which she says, "Why?" to which I say, "because you told me not to look at you" and she says, "Thanks, Poon, for honoring that." I believe my responses here were AFC.

That's ok, because in the end I had her semi-chasing me, but I just ignored her, and she married some other dude to "hurt" me. Oh well, you can't win em all. She said my name last. I NEVER said her name after what went down (in front of others - and she told Everybody whatever I ever said to her = REAL turn-off).

I loved her though, her spirit, her innocence, her ability to Seduce me, has gone unmatched by any other woman to date. She was a master seductress and 4 years younger than me. She got under my skin like none other. I miss that.

 

[Daydream Engineer]

I have... after 4 months of no contact, and it wasnt worth it. don't talk to her again..... your the catch, and should act like it.

 

[PSYCHO]

Don't talk to me, don't call me, don't e-mail me, don't text me.

You should have slyly told the ho - "Can I send you a telegram?"

 

[R19]

BTW, I received notice in a message, not in person. Of course in person for almost anything is highly preferable.

Has anyone ever had this situation turn into any type of future contact? Friend, fvck buddy, scene rival with all sorts of future drama playing out? I am asking because odds are I will be running into a sh1t storm in the near future. I just want to take a high road, be the bigger person, and walk away from the situation without being shredded. Thanks.

Would be good to hear some detailed aftermath tales. Thanks.