"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Don't talk to me, don't call me, don't e-mail me, don't text me.

Whether warranted or not, it feels terrible - especially with someone that you have known for a while. Whatever the interest and history, it means nothing now - and it could have been substantial - as in years. A lot of the bad feelings come from knowing that there were many aspects of the relationship that you could have handled much better or done differently. Or perhaps no matter what you could have or would have done, this was the result on the horizon, but you tried to press in vain.

You allowed them to be too controlling in the relationship, and they ran the court. Because they held this dominant position, and can not have their cake and eat it too with champagne, they wait. As soon as they get another hook up and you are not just right in their life, they lash out with a vengeance...

Has anyone ever had this situation turn into any type of future contact? Friend, fvck buddy, scene rival with all sorts of future drama playing out? I am asking because odds are I will be running into a sh1t storm in the near future. I just want to take a high road, be the bigger person, and walk away from the situation without being shredded. Thanks.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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wow - I must be an original.
 
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I prefer the aloof & unavailable method. The "dont ever call, write, email, text me" seems too emotional and hints that you are hurt, and striking back OR... that you cant stand the temptation of hearing from them. Seems week. Act disinterested and aloof. Dont answer calls, of emails. Say "hi" and "goodbye" if you run into her. The concept is: You are not "shattered" and "under repair" from this breakup... you are simply too busy gettin p---- from other HB's
 
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when a girl takes a **** on your chest like that, delete her number, wait a few weeks, inevitably you will run into her again. if you dont do anything stupid or annoying in the meanwhile, after this time she will have settled down. possibly, shell have reconsidered and want to actually see you, or she wont, in which case you should just MOVE ON.
 
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Don't talk to me, don't call me, don't e-mail me, don't text me.
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Joe Stud, not sure if you / people were reading this right, but just in case, this is what the woman said...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She wants an emotional response to that. The best thing you can do is an indifferent "ok".

I am a little disappointed that this thread isn't about getting kicked out of church for hitting on too many girls during services.
 
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WHEN you see her again, be coodial, but have something to do soon and leave. don't be sad,mad nothing but indiffferent.
 
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I've had the EXACT thing said to me, by my oneitis no less, except she added, "Don't LOOK at me (again)." I just said, "ok" and kept right on walking. And she was Reading what she said from a piece of paper. This was before I started seeking out pickup help to understand women, so was I alpha Before learning about pickup? idk.

She tracked me down a month or so later and I said that "I forgot what you looked like" to which she says, "Why?" to which I say, "because you told me not to look at you" and she says, "Thanks, Poon, for honoring that." I believe my responses here were AFC.

That's ok, because in the end I had her semi-chasing me, but I just ignored her, and she married some other dude to "hurt" me. Oh well, you can't win em all. She said my name last. I NEVER said her name after what went down (in front of others - and she told Everybody whatever I ever said to her = REAL turn-off).

I loved her though, her spirit, her innocence, her ability to Seduce me, has gone unmatched by any other woman to date. She was a master seductress and 4 years younger than me. She got under my skin like none other. I miss that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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R19 said:
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You should have slyly told the ho - "Can I send you a telegram?"
 
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BTW, I received notice in a message, not in person. Of course in person for almost anything is highly preferable.

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Has anyone ever had this situation turn into any type of future contact? Friend, fvck buddy, scene rival with all sorts of future drama playing out? I am asking because odds are I will be running into a sh1t storm in the near future. I just want to take a high road, be the bigger person, and walk away from the situation without being shredded. Thanks.
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Would be good to hear some detailed aftermath tales. Thanks.
 
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