"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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viking22

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Im a bit old fashioned and in my book unless you are clearly just hooking up or having a one night stand with a girl you met in a club, then once you are sleeping with someone it implies a certain commitment to one another.

Anyway so I met this girl on an online dating site. We have a few great dates, talked for hours, lots of kissing and then on our third date we went to this bar and couldn't take our eyes off each other all evening, tried to talk but just ended up kissing for hours and then lay down in a field once the bar had closed and she asked me the usual questions a good girl asks before she sleeps with a guy then we went back to hers and slept together.

The next time we met up we had dinner then went back to hers with the idea of watching a film on her computer. She turned her computer on and some guy instant messages her from msn. I do not say anything but she says "Oh that is a guy ive been chatting to on the dating website". I'm like "ok". We watch the film, I forget about it and we have a lot of sex.

The next day she is checking her emails and she logs on to the dating website in front of me and quickly checks her mails. Im only half watching but do not say anything.

But really Im a bit pissed she is still flirting with other guys on the website and if she is talking to one of the guys on msn he's going to be pushing her to meet up.

Is it my place to say anything? Or should I just get with the times, see other girls and then if me and this girl are still together in a month or two and she still hasn't brought up exclusivity I should say something then?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why pay for the cow, when you get the milk for free?

Don't ask about exclusivity unless SHE brings it up. You will fair much better this way, trust me.
 
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DJDamage

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viking22 said:
Is it my place to say anything? Or should I just get with the times, see other girls and then if me and this girl are still together in a month or two and she still hasn't brought up exclusivity I should say something then?
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You are not exclusive so she can do whatever she wants.

The thing about this situation is that you met this chick on a dating website. As you know hot chicks (even average chicks) get tons of emails from guys wanting to hook up with them every day. I think this girl likes the attention she is getting and also is looking out for the BBD (Bigger Better Deal, if its out there).

I think its too early to say anything regarding a future with this woman so in the meantime you should go out with other women as well and don't look for LTR too soon. Maybe if you are still seeing each other 3-6 months down the road, she probably shouldn't be looking at the dating site. But as it stands right now its just too early.
 
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I didnt see anywhere where you said YOU wanted her exclusivity and WHY.
What is your motivation to be exclusive with her?
Why her?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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frisco

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after sex, or the next meeting if i really like the girl i usually bring up.... so what are we.. She usually is in shock (guys never ask this), there any other guys your seeing.. (usually a yes response).. Cool, you really seem like a really badass girl.. Lets make a promise, lets not have sex with anyone else for a week.. will see, how we work out and after a week will go from there. then kiss her or have sex with her or what ever..
 
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It's just rude and unnecessary for her to do that in fornt of you.

Just make it clear you find that to be rude, she should understand.
 
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