Exclusivity

[chippendale]

In short, how do you guys respond or act when she wants a relationship with you but you're not looking for one but at the same time you still wanna keep on seeing her and take her to space mountain.

I can get away from other girly crap but I'm stumped on this one. Any help suggestions comments? This hasn't happened to me recenelty but I'd rather be prepared besides someone else might learn from this post! :rock:

 

[Desdinova]

Just tell her you're not ready for a serious LTR. If she assumes anything otherwise, it's her own damn fault.

 

[chippendale]

Eventually she'll leave. I've been thinking hoping to find a better solution =)

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Eventually she'll leave.

No. She wont. Thats the horsesh!t you're intended to believe. If her IL is sufficient in you, you could call her mother a hoar and she'd still crawl under barbedwire to get the opportunity to fukk you every way till Tuesday, but if you believe she'll "leave you", she will. Tommy Lee can bang any chick he desires, and Pam Anderson will spread her legs for him ever time, but when he says "you're the only one", her legs close.

 

[Apathy]

No. She wont. Thats the horsesh!t you're intended to believe. If her IL is sufficient in you, you could call her mother a hoar and she'd still crawl under barbedwire to get the opportunity to fukk you every way till Tuesday, but if you believe she'll "leave you", she will. Tommy Lee can bang any chick he desires, and Pam Anderson will spread her legs for him ever time, but when he says "you're the only one", her legs close.

This is so true. Before me and my ex started going out her interest level was through the roof. I kept telling her "I didn't want a girlfriend" and she said she didn't want a boyfriend, so I just kept to myself. However, she did not stop.. her interest level just grew and grew. Of course, once I asked her out her IL dropped completely. I was no longer a "catch" and it got boring fast.

From my experience, if you're looking for a relationship then ask her to be exlusive quickly (if that's your intention.) By quickly, I mean in a reasonable time.. once you feel you're both ready. But once you drag it out accross a certain amount of time, and it just becomes a game of cat and mouse.. once she gets the mouse, it's all over. Atleast from my experience.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Use humor to brush it off -- "I just want to take you to space mountain - not to the moon" or something silly.

or...

Just say a ltr is a serious thing and that develops over time - let's just enjoy ourselves and see where this leads.

 

[chippendale]

You guys are right #4 - #6. I'll usually do that...brush it off and keep the plates spinning. but lately i've been sarging in mexico and when this exclusivity crap popped up i'd just humor it and that was that. They would just not want to continue any further.

Now im thinking either
1. mexican girls are a little different? (naaaahhh)
or
2. they werent woman enough for me

 

[Desdinova]

Don't humor it, be 100% serious that you're not ready for a serious commitment. She'll keep trying to find ways to win you over. It's amazing what lows women can stoop to. You'll know when it's time to cut her loose (when she gets EXTREMELY annoying and the sex isn't worth putting up with her 5hit)

However, she WILL get rid of you if she hears her biological clock ticking. It usually happens with women age 25+

 

[chippendale]

oohh yeah I don't put up with bs.

a little about my experimentations with girls from Mexico living in Mexico.

5 wanted exclusivity and I of course told them I didnt want a serious commitment and boom! losing contact was the next big thing

1 wanted exclusivity and I agreed. I agreed for experimentations sake and I knew it wasn't going to last long. she was living in town A for a while but from town B. I knew she was going to move to a different city.

After agreeing her IL increased even more and just went going up up up. After 2 months she finally left to her city and she still contacts me.

I first met her in September and haven't gone sarging in Mexico since I've been too busy with school. But now...hehehe vacation time its on!

 

[Cod3r]

Mexicans want children (no offene, its just their culture) and if you aren't producing fruit... u'll get the boot soon


-Cod3r

 

[chippendale]

lol well...thanks for enlightening me my child!

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Assuming you are at an age and with a woman you might want to be monogamous with, NEVER ask a woman to be exclusive with you. She must be the one to suggest exclusivity. This sets the frame for the entire relationship. I cannot stress this enough - this confirms her IL as high and makes your exclusive attention a commodity she sought after, literally making you the PRIZE. When you petition for exclusivity you hand all of this over to her.

 

[resilient]

Rollo, what about a girl who asks for exclusivity because she's scared of losing the prize to another girl or two, but once the DJ agrees reluctantly, she gets buyer's remorse and looks for attention from other males?

This subcommunicates to me that she was just having fun playing the field and winning him over. That she has no wish to settle down into a serious LTR.

Possible fears of abandonment or losing her options(plates -- guys,exs-fbs,etc.) come to mind when she announces she official has an exclusive b/f.

 

[Latinoman]

Assuming you are at an age and with a woman you might want to be monogamous with, NEVER ask a woman to be exclusive with you. She must be the one to suggest exclusivity. This sets the frame for the entire relationship. I cannot stress this enough - this confirms her IL as high and makes your exclusive attention a commodity she sought after, literally making you the PRIZE. When you petition for exclusivity you hand all of this over to her.

I agree 100% with you.

Unfortunatelly (hahaha)...that's how my current girlfriend wanted it too! She wanted to go exclusive.

 

[chippendale]

NEVER ask a woman to be exclusive with you.

hehe never said I did I love f**king with their minds! :rockon: