"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm curious about this based on a few things I've read here:

How many of you guys demand (or expect) a woman to be exclusive to you even though you are not exclusive to her?
And if so, does she know you are not exclusive to her?

Generally speaking, I would say that if you are spinning plates, it's only fair that she does also. But girls have to worry about looking slvtty.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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First of all YOU MUST LET THE WOMAN KNOW YOU ARE SPINNIN PLATES. Maybe you can choose your words carefully and sugarcoat the situation.
Second of all Only a slut will let you spin plates. Meaning only a slut will share her body with you and be ok with you sharing your body with someone else. If you are looking for a quality woman you won't find her while spinning plates.
 

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A man and a woman are only expected to be exclusive to each other if they mutually agree -explicitly- that they are a couple. And you don't have to tell your plates anything. I have the day off tomorrow and I am seeing two plates: one in the afternoon and one in the evening. If they were to ask me if I was seeing other girls, I would tell them. But I see no need to bring it up.

Now, if I decided to enter into an exclusive relationship with one of these girls, I would honor that commitment and remain exclusive. But at this point in time, that is not the case, so I will continue to shop around and look for the best deal.
 

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Tiguere said:
First of all YOU MUST LET THE WOMAN KNOW YOU ARE SPINNIN PLATES.
First of all THIS IS THE LAST THING YOU SHOULD PROBABLY DO.

Don't suggest to a woman that there ARE other women, only suggest that there are other women WHO COULD REPLACE HER.

To answer your question, as far as I'm concerned, I would not insist a woman be exclusive to me if I was not ready to commit to be exclusive to her. Any relationship attributes should be equal.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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NO MA'AM said:
To answer your question, as far as I'm concerned, I would not insist a woman be exclusive to me if I was not ready to commit to be exclusive to her. Any relationship attributes should be equal.
So men and women are intrinsically equal in your view?
 

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Pickupmilitia said:
So men and women are intrinsically equal in your view?
No. But I do not ask of others what I will not ask of myself.

I think the views offered in this thread by Lexington are spot on, and perhaps could better explain my views on this subject better than I could.
 

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zekko said:
I'm curious about this based on a few things I've read here:

How many of you guys demand (or expect) a woman to be exclusive to you even though you are not exclusive to her?
And if so, does she know you are not exclusive to her?

Generally speaking, I would say that if you are spinning plates, it's only fair that she does also. But girls have to worry about looking slvtty.

All of us, it's the man's trait.

Girls who got other guys, unless really hot, will not last long
 
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