"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Exclusive to you?

zekko

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I'm curious about this based on a few things I've read here:

How many of you guys demand (or expect) a woman to be exclusive to you even though you are not exclusive to her?
And if so, does she know you are not exclusive to her?

Generally speaking, I would say that if you are spinning plates, it's only fair that she does also. But girls have to worry about looking slvtty.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First of all YOU MUST LET THE WOMAN KNOW YOU ARE SPINNIN PLATES. Maybe you can choose your words carefully and sugarcoat the situation.
Second of all Only a slut will let you spin plates. Meaning only a slut will share her body with you and be ok with you sharing your body with someone else. If you are looking for a quality woman you won't find her while spinning plates.
 

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A man and a woman are only expected to be exclusive to each other if they mutually agree -explicitly- that they are a couple. And you don't have to tell your plates anything. I have the day off tomorrow and I am seeing two plates: one in the afternoon and one in the evening. If they were to ask me if I was seeing other girls, I would tell them. But I see no need to bring it up.

Now, if I decided to enter into an exclusive relationship with one of these girls, I would honor that commitment and remain exclusive. But at this point in time, that is not the case, so I will continue to shop around and look for the best deal.
 

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Tiguere said:
First of all YOU MUST LET THE WOMAN KNOW YOU ARE SPINNIN PLATES.
First of all THIS IS THE LAST THING YOU SHOULD PROBABLY DO.

Don't suggest to a woman that there ARE other women, only suggest that there are other women WHO COULD REPLACE HER.

To answer your question, as far as I'm concerned, I would not insist a woman be exclusive to me if I was not ready to commit to be exclusive to her. Any relationship attributes should be equal.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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NO MA'AM said:
To answer your question, as far as I'm concerned, I would not insist a woman be exclusive to me if I was not ready to commit to be exclusive to her. Any relationship attributes should be equal.
So men and women are intrinsically equal in your view?
 

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Pickupmilitia said:
So men and women are intrinsically equal in your view?
No. But I do not ask of others what I will not ask of myself.

I think the views offered in this thread by Lexington are spot on, and perhaps could better explain my views on this subject better than I could.
 

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zekko said:
I'm curious about this based on a few things I've read here:

How many of you guys demand (or expect) a woman to be exclusive to you even though you are not exclusive to her?
And if so, does she know you are not exclusive to her?

Generally speaking, I would say that if you are spinning plates, it's only fair that she does also. But girls have to worry about looking slvtty.

All of us, it's the man's trait.

Girls who got other guys, unless really hot, will not last long
 
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