I've been seeing this girl for a little over a month, and lately her ex-boyfriend has become a real pain in the as$. They agreed to "remain friends" and keep in touch from time to time. He's a huge AFC though, and has whined since he found out she started seeing me. Recently, he's been saying some nasty shlt to her, like calling her a slut on messenger and then quickly typing "just kidding" right afterwards. He's also trying to screw things up for me by saying stuff like "he's trying to control you" and "he's just using you for sex" to her. It's very obvious to everyone including her that he's AFC and I'm not threatened by him. At the same time, he's talking shlt to both my girl and about me. How do I address this issue? I already asked her to cut off all contact, but she hasn't made that much of an effort to do it. I didn't really force the issue. Do I deliver an ultimatum; him or me? Any good advice would be appreciated.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Exboyfriend Causing Trouble In Relationship
- Thread starter bacchus
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
That's HER PROLBEM not yours, Why do you care? Oh...cause YOU PUT UP WITH her behavior on this?
An AFC "PUTS UP" with a girl's behavior. That in fact makes you an AFC too does it not?
Ultimatum? I would just tell her "Let me know when you put your past behind you and then we can get together sometime, but for now we should have some space." From then you look for other girls to waste time and money on.
An AFC "PUTS UP" with a girl's behavior. That in fact makes you an AFC too does it not?
Ultimatum? I would just tell her "Let me know when you put your past behind you and then we can get together sometime, but for now we should have some space." From then you look for other girls to waste time and money on.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Why do I know without even asking that your dating that BPD chick you were obessed with before? Don't lie either, if you are then its cool, you need to experience it first hand and get it out of your system. And guess what, all that shiat her exbf is saying about her is true and its going to come back to bite you in the @ss sooner or later.
Get out of hell.
PIMP
MR_PERFECT
Senior Don Juan
I would never date a girl who has an ex as a friend. We're all guys in here, we know why we would keep an ex around: booty call, or possible relationship.
I once had a female friend that didn't believe me when I told her this. She kept in touch with several guys from her past and they would come by the house to say hi. Over the course of a two week period, all of them propositioned her in one way or another.
I once had a female friend that didn't believe me when I told her this. She kept in touch with several guys from her past and they would come by the house to say hi. Over the course of a two week period, all of them propositioned her in one way or another.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.