"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Examples of alpha behavior in media.

Chickfight

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I'm definitely a big movie geek. It's also my major.
There's a plethora of alpha male characters in movies. I'm wondering which ones you guys look up to as great examples of ways to behave in an attractive way in real life. As in, they would be attractive to women even if they weren't good looking.

Just a few for me are:

Jude Law in Alfie
Jason London in Dazed an Confused.
James Bond (of course)
and my favorite is David Duchovny as Hank Moody in the tv show Californication.

Something all these characters have in common is that women are not a priority in their lives, except maybe the Alfie character, but he makes up for it with the additude of "If they're so many beautiful girls around, why would you only want one"
Also listening to some hiphop songs, for example lil wayne-single, really get me in the right zone for picking up chicks.
Thoughts?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don Draper (played by Jon Hamm) in Mad Men. He's the Alphaest character I con think of off the top of my head.

It's hard to find a really Alpha character in TV and movies, because most of the guys writing the stuff are chumps.
 

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Galactus said:
Don Draper (played by Jon Hamm) in Mad Men. He's the Alphaest character I con think of off the top of my head.

It's hard to find a really Alpha character in TV and movies, because most of the guys writing the stuff are chumps.

I'll have to check that out.
It's true that a lot of characters on tv that are supposed to be alpha are not. However, there are still a lot. These guys writing it might be afc, but it's not hard to think of good lines when you're not actually talking to a woman. The rest is up to the actor's delivery and chasrisma.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How can fighting a predator NOT be alpha :)
Love Pulp fiction.
Alright bros, let's try to elaborate a bit more as to WHY these characters are alphas, such as mannerisms, dialog, attitude, etc.
 
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John Travolta in Pulp Fiction has it all, the shades, the confidence, the suit, the swagger and the composure.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Charlie Sheen in Two And A Half Men. He pretty much plays himself, but his attitude is dead-on.
 

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Frank T.J. Mackey (Tom Cruise in Magnolia)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My big three are:

Sylvester Stallone (full on masculinity)

Jim Carrey (humor/fun)

Robert Downey Jr. (irreverence)

They all serve a different purpose.

Stallone is the classic action hero. There are other greats, but he is the apex. The perfect example of the fearless, masculine leader who is focused, committed, and always in control. But the best part about him is that he is always the good guy. Our society today associates virtue with weakness and immorality with strength. Because the only people that seem to make any attempt to show any respect or do the right thing anymore are the AFCs (even if they're doing it for all the wrong reasons). Stallone is a reminder that you can be strong and moral. In addition to this, the guy is 64 years old and still in tremendous shape.

Jim Carrey might seem like a bit of an odd choice, but he's really a great example if you look at him. He represents a total free spirit who just expresses himself as the mood strikes him. He is not confined by ego or anxiety. And there is a perpetual element of fun to everything he does. Jack Black is like this too. I've actually found that going through my daily routine with a Jim Carrey attitude suddenly makes the most boring, mudnane sh1t tremendously fun. And women are drawn to fun like moths to a flame. Carrey's own record speaks to this with him bagging Lauren Holly and Jenny McCarthy.

Robert Downey Jr. is the perfect example of a guy that just doesn't give a fück. He is not concerned with social norms, people's feelings, or any unnecessary bullsh1t. He just calls it like he sees it and does what he wants and makes no apologies for any of it.


A lot of guys on here will probably cite James Bond, but I've noticed something with Bond. His level of suaveness really depends on who is playing him. Pierce Brosnan has that perfect C&F devilish charm. But Roger Moore comes across like a stiff, rigid, latent homosexual. So if you're going to go with Bond, be careful which Bond you're watching. Of course you can't go wrong with Sean Connery.
 
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I have a long personal list...

Steve McQueen
Charlton Heston
Clint Eastwood
Sean Connery
Hugh Beaumont as Ward Cleaver
Patton
Sam from "Cheers"
Fonzie
Rocky
Cool Hand Luke
Harrison Ford
Dean Martin
Bing Crosby
Gary Cooper
Burt Lancaster
 

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You want to see real-life alpha behavior? Watch the business leader stories on CNBC. When I see these men drilling for oil in 35,000 feet of water, putting millions on the line, organizing their command, and elk hunting in Montana, that is my inspiration.


But Connery is also the man lol
 

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Great great responses! Especially Nexus
I want to comment on a few:
-Charlie sheen in two and a half men great example. Exactly the kind of easy laid back attitude women love. Nothing affects him, nothing pisses him off.

-Chris Pine was perfect as James Kirk. Women love the genuine heroism he displays, plus he is ****y funny to perfection in the bar scene.

Again, what all these guys have in common is that their happiness does not rely at all on what a woman thinks about them, yet they are not *******s, they are CHARMING.
 

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Brock Lesnar (before he got his ass whooped)
The Joker (Heath Ledger)
Lex Luthor.
Wolverine.
Floyd Mayweather.
Al Pacino (Scarface, Godfather)
Robert De Niro (godfather)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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