Fellas, women do not want nice guys nor jerks, they want a real man. Now what is an example of a real man? In my opinion, Dr Martin Luther King Jr. is the perfect definition of a real man. He had a good heart, was a nice guy but at the same time, he stood up for what was right. Many guys think that you have to be a jerk in order to be respect. That is wrong. You can be nice yet still not be a doormat. A real man is someone who is nice but at the same time stands up for what is right and does not let anyone get him down. As I said, a true example would be Martin Luther King Jr.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Examples of a real man
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
johnny_chase
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generalising women like that is not correct. Each women has her own definition of what a "real man" is, this is from social culture. Some women find MLK attractive, some dont. Ask every guy here what a "real woman" is, and each will give you a different opinion.
In fact, that's a good excercise. Everyone should sit down and list the qualities (other than tits and a$s) that they consider a real woman to be. You don't know what you're looking for if you dont have a clue about it.
What you mean, is women want the man that appeals to the natural women, the inner core of her. What that is, i dont know, no one knows, they just are it.
In fact, that's a good excercise. Everyone should sit down and list the qualities (other than tits and a$s) that they consider a real woman to be. You don't know what you're looking for if you dont have a clue about it.
What you mean, is women want the man that appeals to the natural women, the inner core of her. What that is, i dont know, no one knows, they just are it.
A real man:
- has principles that he won't compromise
- is goal oriented
- desires women but doesn't need them
- stands up for his friends
- cares about people
- treats all people with respect
- is sexually charged
- is not ashamed of his sexual urges
- knows how to love and to be loved
- won't take abuse of any form
- is chased by women
- is a gentleman
- is not a pushover
- demonstrates self-worth
- is well respected
- has principles that he won't compromise
- is goal oriented
- desires women but doesn't need them
- stands up for his friends
- cares about people
- treats all people with respect
- is sexually charged
- is not ashamed of his sexual urges
- knows how to love and to be loved
- won't take abuse of any form
- is chased by women
- is a gentleman
- is not a pushover
- demonstrates self-worth
- is well respected
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
johnny_chase
Don Juan
i think that's a pretty good starting list of qualities, good stuff.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
I agree with LADawg.
KillingTime
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when i think "real man" I think THE man, Schwarzenegger.
Good man, but stands tall and is not afraid to speak his mind.
What he wants, he accomplishes
Very confident/****y & funny (esp. in his younger days, watch pumping iron)
Good man, but stands tall and is not afraid to speak his mind.
What he wants, he accomplishes
Very confident/****y & funny (esp. in his younger days, watch pumping iron)
It's also know that MLK had numerous extra-marital affairs. So yes, he was a REAL MAN! 
It's weird... but I already know that when I get married, I will have affairs. Seriously, this is so common -- you just don't hear about it nearly as often as it occurs.
It's weird... but I already know that when I get married, I will have affairs. Seriously, this is so common -- you just don't hear about it nearly as often as it occurs.
Miles Davis
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If you want to sleep around when you're married, why get married? Just a thought... you'll save money and time.Originally posted by wiggadude
It's also know that MLK had numerous extra-marital affairs. So yes, he was a REAL MAN!
It's weird... but I already know that when I get married, I will have affairs. Seriously, this is so common -- you just don't hear about it nearly as often as it occurs.
This is not being a real man. Where's the character in that? And rationalizing it the way you are doesn't make it any better.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Pick any great person from history. Chances are they had affairs. Seriously, watch ANY biography of a great and good person on the History channel, or whatever, and at some point their life will include one or more affairs. Sometimes it only is revealed after their death. For example, Charles Lindbergh, the guy who did the first Atlantic crossing in an airplane. He seemed so perfect, and yet even he had affairs, as it was revealed only recently.
Affairs are so common, even among supposedly "good" people, that I can't see anything wrong with them.
Affairs are so common, even among supposedly "good" people, that I can't see anything wrong with them.
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Affairs are fundamentally dishonest and this makes them a failure of character. Virtuous men will sin from time to time.
Great men in history have had more temptation than average, so they had affairs. Average people would secumb to the vice more than great men if they had same the opportunity. It is like why the poor in America are more often fat than the rich.
We all want to be great, so we will have temptation to have affairs. Solution: Never get married.
Great men in history have had more temptation than average, so they had affairs. Average people would secumb to the vice more than great men if they had same the opportunity. It is like why the poor in America are more often fat than the rich.
We all want to be great, so we will have temptation to have affairs. Solution: Never get married.
Devestator[sic]
The poor are fatter than the rich because all the poor can afford is Kraft mac n cheese and MickeyDs, whereas the rich can buy healthy salmon and filet mignon. Its not because they are weak - that is a misconception.
The poor are fatter than the rich because all the poor can afford is Kraft mac n cheese and MickeyDs, whereas the rich can buy healthy salmon and filet mignon. Its not because they are weak - that is a misconception.
Oh, and why is it that great men are considered great even though they cheated on their wives?
Its because you are not defined by your sexual escapades!!! You are defined by your contributions to society!
The less you contribute, the more that your sexual history and habits matter as a character builder.
Its because you are not defined by your sexual escapades!!! You are defined by your contributions to society!
The less you contribute, the more that your sexual history and habits matter as a character builder.