Fellas, women do not want nice guys nor jerks, they want a real man. Now what is an example of a real man? In my opinion, Dr Martin Luther King Jr. is the perfect definition of a real man. He had a good heart, was a nice guy but at the same time, he stood up for what was right. Many guys think that you have to be a jerk in order to be respect. That is wrong. You can be nice yet still not be a doormat. A real man is someone who is nice but at the same time stands up for what is right and does not let anyone get him down. As I said, a true example would be Martin Luther King Jr.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Examples of a real man
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
johnny_chase
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generalising women like that is not correct. Each women has her own definition of what a "real man" is, this is from social culture. Some women find MLK attractive, some dont. Ask every guy here what a "real woman" is, and each will give you a different opinion.
In fact, that's a good excercise. Everyone should sit down and list the qualities (other than tits and a$s) that they consider a real woman to be. You don't know what you're looking for if you dont have a clue about it.
What you mean, is women want the man that appeals to the natural women, the inner core of her. What that is, i dont know, no one knows, they just are it.
In fact, that's a good excercise. Everyone should sit down and list the qualities (other than tits and a$s) that they consider a real woman to be. You don't know what you're looking for if you dont have a clue about it.
What you mean, is women want the man that appeals to the natural women, the inner core of her. What that is, i dont know, no one knows, they just are it.
A real man:
- has principles that he won't compromise
- is goal oriented
- desires women but doesn't need them
- stands up for his friends
- cares about people
- treats all people with respect
- is sexually charged
- is not ashamed of his sexual urges
- knows how to love and to be loved
- won't take abuse of any form
- is chased by women
- is a gentleman
- is not a pushover
- demonstrates self-worth
- is well respected
- has principles that he won't compromise
- is goal oriented
- desires women but doesn't need them
- stands up for his friends
- cares about people
- treats all people with respect
- is sexually charged
- is not ashamed of his sexual urges
- knows how to love and to be loved
- won't take abuse of any form
- is chased by women
- is a gentleman
- is not a pushover
- demonstrates self-worth
- is well respected
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
johnny_chase
Don Juan
i think that's a pretty good starting list of qualities, good stuff.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
I agree with LADawg.
KillingTime
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when i think "real man" I think THE man, Schwarzenegger.
Good man, but stands tall and is not afraid to speak his mind.
What he wants, he accomplishes
Very confident/****y & funny (esp. in his younger days, watch pumping iron)
Good man, but stands tall and is not afraid to speak his mind.
What he wants, he accomplishes
Very confident/****y & funny (esp. in his younger days, watch pumping iron)
It's also know that MLK had numerous extra-marital affairs. So yes, he was a REAL MAN! 
It's weird... but I already know that when I get married, I will have affairs. Seriously, this is so common -- you just don't hear about it nearly as often as it occurs.
It's weird... but I already know that when I get married, I will have affairs. Seriously, this is so common -- you just don't hear about it nearly as often as it occurs.
Miles Davis
Senior Don Juan
If you want to sleep around when you're married, why get married? Just a thought... you'll save money and time.Originally posted by wiggadude
It's also know that MLK had numerous extra-marital affairs. So yes, he was a REAL MAN!
It's weird... but I already know that when I get married, I will have affairs. Seriously, this is so common -- you just don't hear about it nearly as often as it occurs.
This is not being a real man. Where's the character in that? And rationalizing it the way you are doesn't make it any better.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Pick any great person from history. Chances are they had affairs. Seriously, watch ANY biography of a great and good person on the History channel, or whatever, and at some point their life will include one or more affairs. Sometimes it only is revealed after their death. For example, Charles Lindbergh, the guy who did the first Atlantic crossing in an airplane. He seemed so perfect, and yet even he had affairs, as it was revealed only recently.
Affairs are so common, even among supposedly "good" people, that I can't see anything wrong with them.
Affairs are so common, even among supposedly "good" people, that I can't see anything wrong with them.
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Affairs are fundamentally dishonest and this makes them a failure of character. Virtuous men will sin from time to time.
Great men in history have had more temptation than average, so they had affairs. Average people would secumb to the vice more than great men if they had same the opportunity. It is like why the poor in America are more often fat than the rich.
We all want to be great, so we will have temptation to have affairs. Solution: Never get married.
Great men in history have had more temptation than average, so they had affairs. Average people would secumb to the vice more than great men if they had same the opportunity. It is like why the poor in America are more often fat than the rich.
We all want to be great, so we will have temptation to have affairs. Solution: Never get married.
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The poor are fatter than the rich because all the poor can afford is Kraft mac n cheese and MickeyDs, whereas the rich can buy healthy salmon and filet mignon. Its not because they are weak - that is a misconception.
The poor are fatter than the rich because all the poor can afford is Kraft mac n cheese and MickeyDs, whereas the rich can buy healthy salmon and filet mignon. Its not because they are weak - that is a misconception.
Oh, and why is it that great men are considered great even though they cheated on their wives?
Its because you are not defined by your sexual escapades!!! You are defined by your contributions to society!
The less you contribute, the more that your sexual history and habits matter as a character builder.
Its because you are not defined by your sexual escapades!!! You are defined by your contributions to society!
The less you contribute, the more that your sexual history and habits matter as a character builder.