"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Example of a good date, just witnessed one

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So today I was in cafe, and a black man in his mid forties was sitting waiting his date, soon after a white woman over 35 showed up, and from how the introduced sound like they are meeting for the first time and most likely from dating website, the man was calm , he was talking about his career, and the woman was trying to find something fun in everything he say to laugh. She was actually trying to make the date more fun and doing all the heavy lifting.
The reason I am posting this , not for me as I am already married, but for some guys here who over think what did they do wrong on the first date. clearly sometimes you have to accept that there was no match and stop beating yourself.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I think you need to be realistic here - do you think every first date, especially coffee as a first time meetup, is going to end in sexxxx, you are in for a lot of disappointment
not every date. But if you are good, you can fclose 1/3 in every first date.
 

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So today I was in cafe, and a black man in his mid forties was sitting waiting his date, soon after a white woman over 35 showed up, and from how the introduced sound like they are meeting for the first time and most likely from dating website, the man was calm , he was talking about his career, and the woman was trying to find something fun in everything he say to laugh. She was actually trying to make the date more fun and doing all the heavy lifting.

The reason I am posting this , not for me as I am already married, but for some guys here who over think what did they do wrong on the first date. clearly sometimes you have to accept that there was no match and stop beating yourself.
Sorry bro I don’t get the connection.

What does a white woman laughing at a black mans jokes on first date have to do with you being married and men thinking they “screwed up’’ on a date?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How is this a good date if there was no FClosed?
Well... IMO this is getting ahead of yourself, and one of the reasons why guys have terrible 1st dates. The purpose of a 1st date isn't to nail a chick... it's to see if she is WORTHY of you. Sometimes first dates end in sex, but this is rare for me mostly because I don't push for this.

All my 1st dates are good. They either move on to date 2 or I screen them out. Don't be in a rush to stick your d!ck in crazy. You wouldn't put your hand on a stove without first checking to see if it's hot, you should have just as much concern with what's between your legs.
 

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Well... IMO this is getting ahead of yourself, and one of the reasons why guys have terrible 1st dates. The purpose of a 1st date isn't to nail a chick... it's to see if she is WORTHY of you.
To see if she’s worthy or he’s worthy? He’s on the date so he’s obviously attracted. What else would he want to know from her?

All my 1st dates are good. They either move on to date 2 or I screen them out. Don't be in a rush to stick your d!ck in crazy. You wouldn't put your hand on a stove without first checking to see if it's hot, you should have just as much concern with what's between your legs.
I agree, but that totally goes against guys who have slept with tons and tons and tons of women and are writing articles about it have said, and also most of the top players on this website, They say if she is not giving you sex by date 1, you should move on and consider the girl worthless. Allegedly, you have to move extremely FAST with women.
 

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Well... IMO this is getting ahead of yourself, and one of the reasons why guys have terrible 1st dates. The purpose of a 1st date isn't to nail a chick... it's to see if she is WORTHY of you. Sometimes first dates end in sex, but this is rare for me mostly because I don't push for this.

All my 1st dates are good. They either move on to date 2 or I screen them out. Don't be in a rush to stick your d!ck in crazy. You wouldn't put your hand on a stove without first checking to see if it's hot, you should have just as much concern with what's between your legs.
I kind of disagreed.
Usually when guys are in a rush to stick it in is because they have very high sex drive like me.
 
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