So yeah the biploar girl I was dating, who I just took a break from is now sending my friends...particularly my roommate gchat invites. Why does she want to add my friends to her gchat group? Can't she just walk away? I haven't contacted her since the weekend...I don't get it. If it all of it meant nothing to you then why pull something like this?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ex Wants To Chat With My Friends?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Do you think she is trying to make you jealous or just trying to make you angry?
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Again its Borderline Personality Disorder.
And she's doing it to get a reaction out of you.
Don't react.
And she's doing it to get a reaction out of you.
Don't react.
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I think u shouldn't care what she does if u think it's stupid.
She probably just wants to fvck with ya but, don't even make anything out of it. Be like it's no big deal, don't even mention it anyway.
Plus it's your ex. My personal belief is that if you breakup with someone, you have to move on. If she really liked you, she might be trying to make you regret dumping her or whatever.
Above all tho, shes bipolar, which means u have to deal with sht sometimes. I don't think it's worth the trouble, unless you're genuinely interested in her.
She probably just wants to fvck with ya but, don't even make anything out of it. Be like it's no big deal, don't even mention it anyway.
Plus it's your ex. My personal belief is that if you breakup with someone, you have to move on. If she really liked you, she might be trying to make you regret dumping her or whatever.
Above all tho, shes bipolar, which means u have to deal with sht sometimes. I don't think it's worth the trouble, unless you're genuinely interested in her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Absolutely anything.rocket said:got bpd, not going to react. but what kind of reaction is she looking for?
From you telling your friends to stay away from her and then them telling her what you said, to you outright confronting her and telling her to stay away from your friends or you just acting annoyed to her about what she's doing etc.
Absolutely any response to her from you no matter how trivial can be perceived by her as her getting to you emotionally.
So don't do anything of the sort just act casual around her if you have to be in her presence at all and avoid talking to her as much as you can and if she ever calls you or emails you give no response whatsoever.
If you are in a public scenario where you feel you are forced to talk to her to avoid appearing awkward act boring an uninterested in what she has to say.
Edit: Just to make myself even more clear about BPD it stands for Borderline Personality Disorder.
There is no equivalent abbreviation for Bipolar Disorder.
I think this is a double edged sword, if she is really sick in the head.KontrollerX said:From you telling your friends to stay away from her.
If he tells her friends to stay away from her, she gets the reaction she craves.
If he doesn't, then she could go fvck one or few of his buddies and turn them against him (if she is the revengeful type). Lets hope she doesn't have the full blown BPD and she won't go that far.
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Good point Damage.
I suppose you can warn your friends that she is very mentally ill and use whatever language about that you feel can drive the point home but there's not much more you can do after that.
Depending on how hot she is or how well she mindgames your male friends she may ruin their lives despite your best intentions at preventing their being destroyed by her.
It really is a double edged sword to warn or not warn your friends about her.
"what does that type of response do to someone with bpd?"
Not reacting to them drives them fvcking nuts.
I've talked to a BPD and an HPD who were both working hard to recover from their disorders and they basically told me this and I verified it on my own to be true.
The HPD told me about how an NPD guy had her absolutely nuts over him because he would not react to her scams to get him back in her life and wanting her.
She knew he was an NPD because she's a mental health professional (scary I know) so she understands her disorder better than most as well the other Cluster B disorders.
Edit: Also my second HPD/BPD girlfriend told me one of her ex boyfriends had gotten rid of her and to try and lure him back she made some kind of call to him saying she was in the hospital near death just to get him to talk to her again. Really crazy sh!t.
I suppose you can warn your friends that she is very mentally ill and use whatever language about that you feel can drive the point home but there's not much more you can do after that.
Depending on how hot she is or how well she mindgames your male friends she may ruin their lives despite your best intentions at preventing their being destroyed by her.
It really is a double edged sword to warn or not warn your friends about her.
"what does that type of response do to someone with bpd?"
Not reacting to them drives them fvcking nuts.
I've talked to a BPD and an HPD who were both working hard to recover from their disorders and they basically told me this and I verified it on my own to be true.
The HPD told me about how an NPD guy had her absolutely nuts over him because he would not react to her scams to get him back in her life and wanting her.
She knew he was an NPD because she's a mental health professional (scary I know) so she understands her disorder better than most as well the other Cluster B disorders.
Edit: Also my second HPD/BPD girlfriend told me one of her ex boyfriends had gotten rid of her and to try and lure him back she made some kind of call to him saying she was in the hospital near death just to get him to talk to her again. Really crazy sh!t.