amnbyrd
Don Juan
Just found out my ex here in the dorms is telling other people sh!t. I found this out from talking to this girl I know. She said that my ex said I was an a**hole and some other crap. Anyways how should I respond to this?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Ex Running Her Mouth...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sir Juanalot
Senior Don Juan
Ignore it, shes obviously just trying to get a rise out of you and some validation/attention. She's your ex, she's gonna say you are an a**hole.amnbyrd said:Just found out my ex here in the dorms is telling other people sh!t. I found this out from talking to this girl I know. She said that my ex said I was an a**hole and some other crap. Anyways how should I respond to this?
KontrollerX
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Ignore it like Juanalot has said or if you are questioned about this simply say to people that your ex is behaving immaturely because she still cannot get over that you two have broken up.
If the person tries to question you further to try and prove your ex right and squeeze a bit more drama out of the situation for themselves to be entertained by avoid this by saying "there's nothing else to say".
To try and justify yourself further than the simple explanations just fuels people's drama need and gets them wondering and debating and taking sides about whose right but if you cut this off with a short answer and don't entertain people's continued questioning you come off as the rational sane one looking good from that point on regardless of what else she says about you.
If the person tries to question you further to try and prove your ex right and squeeze a bit more drama out of the situation for themselves to be entertained by avoid this by saying "there's nothing else to say".
To try and justify yourself further than the simple explanations just fuels people's drama need and gets them wondering and debating and taking sides about whose right but if you cut this off with a short answer and don't entertain people's continued questioning you come off as the rational sane one looking good from that point on regardless of what else she says about you.
MacAvoy
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Don't worry about the damage. If a girl is actually interested in you and an ex tells her your an azzhole, it will likely work in your favour. She'll ignore the women as a scorned ex, and also she'll see that your a man and won't take sh1t from a women and she'll want to get to know you.
Curious what did you do to make her so upset?! what were the reasons the two of you broke up?!amnbyrd said:Just found out my ex here in the dorms is telling other people sh!t. I found this out from talking to this girl I know. She said that my ex said I was an a**hole and some other crap. Anyways how should I respond to this?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MacAvoy
Banned
He pissed her off last week cuz she invited him to the movies with some guy friends of hers, then she called him to ask him to pick up a guy on the way to the movies. He was smart and didn't go.
She has trouble written all over her.
She has trouble written all over her.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
Thats pretty much it. I was smart and didnt go and Ive been ignoring her. But apparently she still thinks theres some chance that I might still like her(believe me theres not) and last night she texted me asking if I wanted to go to the store with her. I txted back"whos this"(I dont have her number in my phone) and she txted her name back in all capital letters lolMacAvoy said:He pissed her off last week cuz she invited him to the movies with some guy friends of hers, then she called him to ask him to pick up a guy on the way to the movies. He was smart and didn't go.
She has trouble written all over her.
I didnt bother with a response-and Ive just been ignoring her, Shes nothing but trouble and is definitely not worth any of my time.