amnbyrd
Don Juan
Just found out my ex here in the dorms is telling other people sh!t. I found this out from talking to this girl I know. She said that my ex said I was an a**hole and some other crap. Anyways how should I respond to this?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ex Running Her Mouth...
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Sir Juanalot
Senior Don Juan
Ignore it, shes obviously just trying to get a rise out of you and some validation/attention. She's your ex, she's gonna say you are an a**hole.amnbyrd said:Just found out my ex here in the dorms is telling other people sh!t. I found this out from talking to this girl I know. She said that my ex said I was an a**hole and some other crap. Anyways how should I respond to this?
KontrollerX
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Ignore it like Juanalot has said or if you are questioned about this simply say to people that your ex is behaving immaturely because she still cannot get over that you two have broken up.
If the person tries to question you further to try and prove your ex right and squeeze a bit more drama out of the situation for themselves to be entertained by avoid this by saying "there's nothing else to say".
To try and justify yourself further than the simple explanations just fuels people's drama need and gets them wondering and debating and taking sides about whose right but if you cut this off with a short answer and don't entertain people's continued questioning you come off as the rational sane one looking good from that point on regardless of what else she says about you.
If the person tries to question you further to try and prove your ex right and squeeze a bit more drama out of the situation for themselves to be entertained by avoid this by saying "there's nothing else to say".
To try and justify yourself further than the simple explanations just fuels people's drama need and gets them wondering and debating and taking sides about whose right but if you cut this off with a short answer and don't entertain people's continued questioning you come off as the rational sane one looking good from that point on regardless of what else she says about you.
MacAvoy
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Don't worry about the damage. If a girl is actually interested in you and an ex tells her your an azzhole, it will likely work in your favour. She'll ignore the women as a scorned ex, and also she'll see that your a man and won't take sh1t from a women and she'll want to get to know you.
Curious what did you do to make her so upset?! what were the reasons the two of you broke up?!amnbyrd said:Just found out my ex here in the dorms is telling other people sh!t. I found this out from talking to this girl I know. She said that my ex said I was an a**hole and some other crap. Anyways how should I respond to this?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
MacAvoy
Banned
He pissed her off last week cuz she invited him to the movies with some guy friends of hers, then she called him to ask him to pick up a guy on the way to the movies. He was smart and didn't go.
She has trouble written all over her.
She has trouble written all over her.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
Thats pretty much it. I was smart and didnt go and Ive been ignoring her. But apparently she still thinks theres some chance that I might still like her(believe me theres not) and last night she texted me asking if I wanted to go to the store with her. I txted back"whos this"(I dont have her number in my phone) and she txted her name back in all capital letters lolMacAvoy said:He pissed her off last week cuz she invited him to the movies with some guy friends of hers, then she called him to ask him to pick up a guy on the way to the movies. He was smart and didn't go.
She has trouble written all over her.
I didnt bother with a response-and Ive just been ignoring her, Shes nothing but trouble and is definitely not worth any of my time.