Some people just need to learn the hard way.f283000 said:this must be the millionth "gf/ex re-initiated contact" thread i've seen and they always end the same way.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Some people just need to learn the hard way.f283000 said:this must be the millionth "gf/ex re-initiated contact" thread i've seen and they always end the same way.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
:crackup:Mantis Toboggan said:I know what you're going through man. So don't think I'm being harsh...
But Hit it and leave? Who are you fooling? That doesn't sound like you. If you hit it tonight, you'd be waking up early to serve her breakfast in bed tomorrow. This little 3-month relationship has you all mushy and soft.
You need to just break ties with this girl for a while. Go out on the town for a few months, work out, meet women, make more friends...basically become a new man. If you wanna give her a call AFTER all that, just to show off the cool new you, then go for it.
I hate watching re-runs too.f283000 said:oh great not this s**** again
this must be the millionth "gf/ex re-initiated contact" thread i've seen and they always end the same way.
That's not always true though. Some girls legitimately feel like they screwed up when breaking up with their boyfriends. In the story of my ex and me, there wasn't any other guy in the equation. She started talking to me about less than a week after things had ended. I cut off contact, and it screwed with her. If anything else had been happening on the side, I would have heard about it, seeing as she was still hanging out with my friends. Girls don't always leave one guy for another, sometimes they simply take a break from dating. Some girls leave their boyfriends only for the fact they don't have feelings for them anymore. I still stand by my original message that this won't work out in the end, and you're only holding yourself back by going back to this girl. She WILL break up with you again.sodbuster said:OK, here's my take. THe guy she WAS interested in dating,didn't fall for her,it didn't work out, etc.,etc., SO ,she calls to see if you'll take her back-give her dinner and sex until she can find better. You are looking to get hit harder next time.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.