"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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An ex decided she want to get back together.BUT she's gained 40 lbs since. So, when she asked what it would take; told her she needed to get back to her "fighting weight". I told her she needed to be hot enough that I wouldn't be tempted by the strays running around the Dental Conventions. When she replied"thats why I'd come WITH", I told her theirs a difference between not being tempted and not having the opportunity.

Since SHE broke up with ME, I figure she's going to really have to work for it to get another chance at anything.....

Like your thoughts/ideas on this. I know how I WANT to play it,but there may be a better idea out there
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So she's gained weight and wants you back... Hmm sounds like she's not getting a lot of options and needs to feel good about herself and figured an ex that she dumped would be the easiest way to regain some self-esteem.
 
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Think you're playing it right asuuming you still want her. A complete frame flip is in order if she's wanting to.get back with you. Go overboard with what you want and.expect, you have leverage now....not the other way around. Enjoy your frequent bjs.
 
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Dear Sodbuster,
I am really surprised at this revelation....You know what you would tell me or any of your mates....Even if desperate,you NEVER go back,maybe a quick leg over for old times sake?...but in general No...In my experience,these Birds have been hurt,they are always 105% right,as we all know,No Woman is ever even partially to blame for any differences of opinion,Right?......They may appear to forgive,but they never forget......And so when they think they have you by the short and curlies,they come out first with some sarcastic remark,then if you still hang around with them they pile the agony on harder and harder....
Typical example:I moved into a new house,after we moved in my German Neighbors,who became good friends came over to welcome us with a bottle of lovely German Wine......We had not even finished the first glass and she was ridiculing her husband,for his having run away for a week,with a young Chicky babe....The punchline of her story being,his bringing back his dirty washing....Tres Drole....Sometime after,I asked Alois how long ago since he had done a runner on his Brunhilde...It had been,21 Years!....says it all!
And so these days,I always try desperately to slide out of relationships,minimising bitterness,acrimony....That way when things unexpectedly become quiet,you have a bolt hole...In short I have my own Friends Zone where I keep the little darlings on ice....sadly there are those,who I have to go no contact with,Then I mean it....They have excluded themselves on Health,(psychological or physical)or perhaps their ability in the sack....another can be their potential contact with family members or more valued Plates!
 
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If I were you, I'd just amuse myself baiting her to lose weight, see how far she'd go, then do a switch. :D Make the biatch jump through hoops. In fact she could do well with literally jumping through hoops, 40lbs needs a lot of workout.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Jitterbug said:
If I were you, I'd just amuse myself baiting her to lose weight, see how far she'd go, then do a switch. :D Make the biatch jump through hoops. In fact she could do well with literally jumping through hoops, 40lbs needs a lot of workout.
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Or it could backfire. She loses 40 pounds then all of a sudden shes getting a little more attention and pulls the rug on him by saying "she needs space"
 
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Do you know what a bait & switch means?

Besides, I have no doubt that she will never lose that 40lbs.
 
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sodbuster said:
An ex decided she want to get back together.BUT she's gained 40 lbs since. So, when she asked what it would take; told her she needed to get back to her "fighting weight". I told her she needed to be hot enough that I wouldn't be tempted by the strays running around the Dental Conventions. When she replied"thats why I'd come WITH", I told her theirs a difference between not being tempted and not having the opportunity.

Since SHE broke up with ME, I figure she's going to really have to work for it to get another chance at anything.....

Like your thoughts/ideas on this. I know how I WANT to play it,but there may be a better idea out there
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Ah, see that's where we differ. I would have told her point blank, 'Sorry I've had moved on with my life and I wish you the best of luck in the future'.

I don't play games at all. What's the point? Revenge? Ego stroking? The fact that she left and came crawling back is victory enough isn't it? Be magnanimous in victory. Or at least pretend to be. ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Probably right Scara

It was never much more than "friends with benefits"...she had worked for a competitor of mine at the time ,so it couldn't be out in the open. We were/are friends. SHE also wasn't willing to give up her cat.Since I'm allergic to the cat, I figure when it comes down to puzzy or death... I'll make the right choice

So far, the board is split on what I should do..which is where I am. To plate, or not to plate...ThAT is the question. she is no longer wife material
 
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