Ex Girlfriend wants to come back into my life

[blu42giants]

My ex heartstomped me about two months ago. We were dating for two and a half years and we both started our freshman year of college this fall. She is away at school 600 miles away, so we tried long distance. I wasn't confident in myself as a boyfriend or a man in general, so my entire frame collapsed and I came off as controlling. In the beginning of October, I caught her lying to me about what she was doing on weekends. (Claim she went to bed, went out partying instead) When I called her out on it, she broke up with me over the phone immediately, saying she needs her space. I was broken for a few weeks, but I stumbled across some of the gold that is on this website and got back on my feet. At one point I had sixteen different girls messaging me with romantic interest. It was great talking to all these different girls, but I still felt that I wanted to recapture a relationship with my ex.

Over Thanksgiving break, she came home from school. To make a long story short, we hooked up each of the four nights she was home. One night, she started to confess to me how the past couple of weeks she hadn't been with any other guys. She went so far as to say her lips hadn't touched anyone else's. Then she tried to ask me back into an exclusive relationship.(She was very drunk during all of this) I declined, saying that wasn't what I wanted right now. I did say that, depending on where we both were, we could give it a shot when she comes home in two weeks for Christmas break. Since then, she has gone back to school, but she has called me every night.

I want to turn to the minds on this discussion board for advice. I still have a tremendous amount of feelings for this girl, yet she broke my trust in lying to me and I am still hurt about that. I'm hesitant to get back together with her because I don't want to get heartstomped again. And at the same time, I am jumping at the chance to get back together with her because of the amount of happiness she gave me when we were together. If you were in this situation, what would you do?

 

[Cremasta]

At one point I had sixteen different girls messaging me with romantic interest.

I'd be generous and let her be number 17, but I'm nice that way

Seriously? Right now you're on a hot streak and it is because you are not with her! If you don't take full advantage of this one, you'll be kicking yourself later.

 

[GS750]

She's away at school and in party mode. She will hook up with/fvck other guys. Save yourself the heartache and officially end it. You're 18 and at different schools hundreds of miles away. Millions of couples have tried this arrangement, most have failed.

 

[salinechow]

17-1 is still16 right?

Wait wait wait. So let me get this straight. You are talking to a harem of women and you ever remember your exs name? You mean to tell me your oneitis is so bad that having a vending machine of chicks is not enough distraction? I am confused why you even need to ask about this. ESPECIALLY since round 3 is a giant win for you.

Here is the reality of this girl. She dropped you without the slightest concern or respect for you and your relationship. She went away and thought she could do better. She either did do better and got her heart broken and came crawling back, or she didn’t do better and came crawling back. Now, the moment you show any heart for her you will lose her again and you will get rinsed recycled repeat. This girl is trying, actively trying, to set you up as a parachute and back burner dude. This is so she can gain back confidence to play her field better when she is away but still always have a "home" with you if it doesn’t go according to her plan. Dude, she seems innocent to you, I can tell, but this girl is very much a woman, looking to play you. She seems focused on you right now but I am telling you you are just a pawn on her chessboard if you allow it. Either consciously or sub-consciously.

You want to play with this fire? Go ahead. You had better not, under any circumstance allow this woman back into anything resembling a relationship with you. She wants to have a few drinks, hook up, and whisper sweet nothings in your ear...fine go ahead, sounds fun, enjoy. I would be very unavailable after that though. I would deny her 4 times for every time you do choose see her. Make it very uncomfortable for her when she goes back to school. Make sure it is her hamster that is spinning about you and not the other way around. If she thinks she has you, even a little, you are going to reinforce yourself as a total back burner beta. Very few people get a chance to win back frame the way you do but the WIN is fleeting. You must play this pretty perfect in order to stay in the position you have. As a matter of fact, by the sound of it, and the way you still care for her, I don’t think I even would try. I would just live in the win and go ghost. She doesn’t even sound like a quality chick anymore, even if she once was.

Heres a short and practical suggestion. Play a game with yourself. Promise yourself you will only agree to see her after you go on a date with one of your other options first. So the whole time she is home you can only see the oneitis chick by earning it, taking out another girl first. This will help you keep some frame and keep you from going overboard with the oneitis try to squeeze every last drop before she goes back. Im telling you as true as the sky is blue, you give the oneitis even the smallest resemblance of a “relationship” feeling with you and you are going to get broken worse than before.

Seriously though, Im thinking just go ghost the whole time she is home. That will really get her thinking. Dude, you have other plates! F^cking enjoy them!

Boys, his first post is “I have 16 chicks to talk to but I like the one that hates my heart, what do I do?” The nerve of some people. This is a no brainer.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

Play the beta dude, take her back, **** her, make her fall in love and leave her in the moment she is least expecting.

 

[MtnMan]

man, forget about her. DO NOT enter into a relationship with her again. She is going to be banging other dudes at school, and you should be honing your game skills while at school. This is the best chance you get to have tons of women around at your disposal. DO NOT WASTE THIS ONCE IN A LIFETIME OPPORTUNITY!

Trust me, I had no game when I went to school, and I shacked up with the first girl I could bang and dated her for almost 2 years of college!! What a waste, do not make a mistake like I did.

I get laid much more now than I did back then, but it was basically served up to me on a silver platter and I missed out!

 

[Alvafe]

only thing I would say is her loss.

serious dude if you rally have that many girls after you, why you will waste time with her? long distance LTR never works well, she lied to you before and you consider she is telling the truth now? news flash, I bet she is lying again.

only thing you should think now is the other girls who want you, you give her chance, she blow that up, now is the next on the line

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

You have a lot to learn - and apparently, growing up to do.

No **** sheriff )) I wont bother asking what learn and why grow up.She ****ed him up now he should do same,eye for the eye.Nature of man and human is sometimes is to a be villian.

 

[VladPatton]

Listen to the guys, man. If you got chicks talkin to you lookin to have fun, go for it. You access to ass will reduce greatly once you're outta school. She's 600 miles away and WILL be hopping on other dix at school, gee-ron-teed! This isn't a time to play around with breaking up and getting back together.

It's your call, but when you find out she/s getting a train ran on her in school, you're gonna be pissed for throwing away 16 possible better girls.

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