"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ex-girlfriend says I can't sleepover anymore?

guitaronfire411

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I noticed today that she has re-added guys onto her Facebook that were removed before. The thing is, she has obviously removed the actual action that states she has re-added these guys...I find that suspicious.

She put out last Thursday and when I tried to get intimate with her on Monday, she said that she felt disgusting and was on her period. She said that I would have to wait 5 days before we can do it again.

Anyways, she let me stay over last Thursday and now she says I can't. She used to let me but keeps saying that she cannot sleep with me there. I couldn't stay over Monday for the same reasons.

On Monday she said that she's going through family problems and stressing out over that and the fact that she won't see me after early April. Do you think this is BS to cover her tracks? That is my suspicion.

I am thinking that she might be seeing other guys and not telling me. What should I do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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theunflushables

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Umm...it's your ex-girlfriend, you shouldn't be staying there at all. Move on.
 

speed dawg

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Anybody else ever just wonder "What's the point?"? I look at a post like this and I don't have words. I just feel sorry for the poster and hope I never come in contact with him.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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horaholic

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Well, that is something that is inevitable with any FB, let alone an Ex that turned into one. Thats part of the deal, and you cant say, or do a thing about it.
 

eaglez1177

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Lol shes your EX gf you fuking retard.

Geez some of the things ppl say on here scares me with the stupidity.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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It sounds like either she got over you or is interested in some new guy(s), or both. This happened to me when I broke up with my last girlfriend. We still kept hooking up for a while even while she had started seeing this other guy, but she said we should stop because her and this guy were getting more serious. No skin off my back; I totally understood.
 

guitaronfire411

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Thanks goes out to the non-keyboard jockey replies.

She's my ex, but we both agreed on seeing each other again and that escalated from kissing to going all the way. I thought we were getting closer than before but it looks like she might a) want to bring on the hurt b) enjoy being single with sex on the side from multiple guys.

I mentioned other girls to show her that I could be with someone else --- and she said I should go for them. So that backfired on me because she got super-jealous. I know that she will calm down and probably phone me tonight, as it's happened once or twice before.
 

mothballs

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:crackup: what the hell? Exes are exes for a reason. Stop boinking her and move on.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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