"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ex-girlfriend... being weird

rich_uk

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an ex and i have started seeing each other again (havent done anything more than kiss though) pretty much everytime we see each other is when i go round her house but usually her family are home so we cant do a great deal and i havent tried to. so mutual feeling up and some kissing is how far its gone.

she is showing high IL (txting me alot, inviting me to do stuff, cancels plans to see me etc etc) so in my drunken state on new years when seh called me after midnight (she was home sick) i asked her straight out if she wanted us to get together (not very smooth i know) anyway she wouldnt give a proper answerand i said if its no then say no and she wouldnt.

she refused to say no but when i pushed it kept changing the subject... then last night i went round her house but she was still sick so nothing happened but we still had a good time.

so im not sure how to play it, im not gonna ask her again i was planning to wait until she is well again and then go round her house and just go for it. if she responds then hey, thats a ood enough answer for me.

dont worry though guys i dont have oneitis for her, im actively djing 3 other girls (i say active as these have shown high IL and i wouldnt mind banging them) but i really want to see if i can get with this girl because shes THE ex, and when i was with her was the height of my AFC days and i got burned.

the only good thing i did in that relationship was end it myself and not talk to her for a year. now im talking to her again and well lets just see how things go, she has definitely noticed the change in me and now its her calling me.

anyway the point of this post? any advice you'd give on how to get her to respond in a good way!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Paid Laid & Made

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God. Listen to me.

NO MESSING WITH THE EX.

GET AWAY. THE POOL HAS ALREADY BEEN PI$$ED IN. STAY WITH THE OTHER 3 GIRLS. THE EX WILL MESS WITH YOUR HEAD AND THROW OF YOU GAME, GUARENTEED.

I HAVE DONE IT AND TRIED IT ALL WITH THE EX. U KNOW WHAT I HAVE LEARNED?

GET THE HELL AWAY ... I'VE LOST SLEEP AND WAISTED TO MUCH VALUABLE TIME I COULD HAVE SPENT WITH HB'S.
 

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Drop the Ex. No words can express what an ex is to YOU. You must drop her fast. You are growing desperate, falling back on easy prey. Don't man. No words can really describe why ex-es are bad thoroughly. Don't do it man. You'll live to regret it.
Hang up the phone! The line is already broken...
 

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woah, quite surprised by the strength of your responses? anyone got a different opinion?
 

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the ettiquette of the spark

there's a reason why they are EX's in the first place! there's no point in going back to them since they are after all EX's ... they are not going to change and you WILL lose sleep on the issue because you'll be wonderin what the hell she is doing and what not...!

STAY AWAY from the EX dont get involved!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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